I have a few websites and presences on the web (this being just one) which attract ALOT of emails from guys.
How to respond to those who aren't customers (of the website I make money from)???
I feel bad for ignoring so many emails... would an auto response be okay? Something generic copied and pasted about how I don't have the time to personally answer each and every single email...?
Curious to hear ideas and opinions...
Thanks!How to deal with online men who...?
This is just a joke right change your user name.
I have answered you before i think these are games instead of question which you need help.
Sounds as if your promoting your web-sites for more business.
I do believe your in violation of Yahoo!Answers guild lines.How to deal with online men who...?
Just curious as to why your 360 says you LOVE to get emails?
Which is it? yes or no to emails? Or are you just being a woman and really dont know what you want....
sorry to hear you are too busy, if you do the automated thing it will not be good for the money making sites.
You don't think Ann Launders read every letter sent to she do you? You're a celeb,hire an aide. ;%26gt;)
Saturday, August 21, 2010
My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
Is this normal?
How do other women deal with men that refuse to show affection (apart from sex) and have a conversation. I have tried showing him what I like by specifying it and even to the point of writing it down for him. I dont want to tell him he has to tell me he loves me or else it feels fake.
Is it normal for me to stop talking to us? I dont think I've upset him in anyway. Otherwise he appears very very happy...who wouldn't be with a slave on tap.My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
So why did you marry him in the first place?
How do other women deal with men that refuse to show affection (apart from sex) and have a conversation. I have tried showing him what I like by specifying it and even to the point of writing it down for him. I dont want to tell him he has to tell me he loves me or else it feels fake.
Is it normal for me to stop talking to us? I dont think I've upset him in anyway. Otherwise he appears very very happy...who wouldn't be with a slave on tap.My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
So why did you marry him in the first place?
Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
As a female Massage/Reflexology Therapist what is the best way to deal with men if you decide you would prefer not to treat them or if you only want to provide certain treatments. Is it discrimination? I am asking this question purely based on the security aspect as I would be offering a mobile service as well as having people into my own home. I am sure the majority of men are fine and I dont really want to exclude them as clients altogether..any advice would be welcome on how to handle this.Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
Of course it's discrimination.
But I don't know whether you fall under the public accommodation laws that make it an 'illegal' discrimination.
And on that note, - you just have to weight the risks that someone wants to sue you for discrimination.Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
I really don't know but i think it would be unfair to the therapist if you couldn't. I wanted to be a massage therapist but only would wnat to massage women. I figured that wouldn't go over well so i decided not to. But I guess I could be a sport massage therapist for a volleyball team or something. Anyways i don't think it's discrimination. Personally though I wouldn't feel comfortable getting a massage form a man and I figure a lot of men feel the same.
I don't know about discrimination since you have perticular concerns and situations. If you are a private provider you can choose whom you wish to work with. If you are employed by a public group then discrimination may be an issue.
I think that if you have an all across the board rule of treating only women, then its okay with a profession like that. Its kind of like treating only a certain age group, which is totally acceptable.
yea
No it isn't discrimination. If you don't feel comfortable with men, you won't be doing the excellent job that you were trained to do providing customer satisfaction.
Of course it's discrimination.
But I don't know whether you fall under the public accommodation laws that make it an 'illegal' discrimination.
And on that note, - you just have to weight the risks that someone wants to sue you for discrimination.Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
I really don't know but i think it would be unfair to the therapist if you couldn't. I wanted to be a massage therapist but only would wnat to massage women. I figured that wouldn't go over well so i decided not to. But I guess I could be a sport massage therapist for a volleyball team or something. Anyways i don't think it's discrimination. Personally though I wouldn't feel comfortable getting a massage form a man and I figure a lot of men feel the same.
I don't know about discrimination since you have perticular concerns and situations. If you are a private provider you can choose whom you wish to work with. If you are employed by a public group then discrimination may be an issue.
I think that if you have an all across the board rule of treating only women, then its okay with a profession like that. Its kind of like treating only a certain age group, which is totally acceptable.
yea
No it isn't discrimination. If you don't feel comfortable with men, you won't be doing the excellent job that you were trained to do providing customer satisfaction.
How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
i saw this movie lat night '; i think i love my wife'; with my husband and i remember seeing it before but i didnt remember the full movie, anyway for those of you that have seen it.. at the end just when he's taking off her panties he looks in the mirror and remembers playing with his kids and doesnt go through with having sex with this other women that is not his wife.. How many of you would do the same thing? and why is sex such a big deal to men if there is a moment in time that you dont have sex with your wife? there are other options why would you go to another female?How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
Sure. Temptation is always present, and I've certainly walked away from it on several occasions. Once, way back when we were pretty newly married, and I was in Saudi Arabia for seven miserable months, and then in Kuwait for three horrible days, I did not walk away from temptation. I cheated on my wife, and I felt horrible afterwards, and I confessed as soon as I was able to face to face. We're still married, still very much in love, 18 years later.
That being said, I think the temptation is not just sex. It also has to do with novelty, and a sense of being desired. I'm not criticizing, at all, but often, married men don't feel desired or admired by their wives. I think the same is often true in wives who stray. It's the desire to feel wanted that leads many to cheat. Not just to have sex, but to feel like you're wanted.
Finally, I would note that monogamy is difficult for nearly all men. I suspect that we are hardwired to spread our seed as far as possible. Behavioral adaptations have dictated the need for monogamy, but that innate instict is still there, and we deal with it with varying degrees of success, and with a variety of techniques. Some men look at porn, some fantasize, some do really stupid and dangerous things like cheat. It's all driven by the same ancient instinct, it just depends on how we handle that instinctive need.
If I sound like a chauvenist, I'm sorry. I don't mean to be. I can't speak for what drives women, nor, obviously, can I speak to all men.How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
I want to know the same thing, mine left me and our family for it...it's so sad
Every farmer rotates their crops
stoping to think about ur family is only in the movies... sorry to say.
When you have a horny girl in front of you grabbing at your pants... then it's really hard to stop... not thinking of the family.. get it?/ thinking, how far is she gonna let me go.
i know it sucks.. but it works both ways... wives are just as bad..
not only men cheat women do it too. our minds and bodies are complicated and there are many reasons for cheating. some people don't even believe in monogamy and justify it in that way, and others just have issues with self-control. every relationship is different and you have to be totally honest with the man you are with and get to understand his way of thinking. does he believe in monogamy? is he satisfied sexually? does he think he can be with only one woman for the rest of his life? have an honest and open convesation with him about all these issues before something like this happens to one of you, because it happens a lot and you want to prevent it by knowing him very well. tell him you won't get upset if he is totaly honest with you even if he says something you don't like to hear.
The best thing to do is to not put one's self in that sort of situation. I wouldn't even put myself at an opportunity to take of some other girl's panties.
I wouldn't have to stop because I wouldn't be there in the first place.
I wouldn't put myself in to a situation where it could escalate to something that would hurt my wife and or kids. Man or woman, they have to know their limits. I don't care who it is but there's always that time when it first starts happening that the same thing runs through every ones mind, ';This probably isn't the best idea.';
Only spouses who really love their partner will cut it all off just as quick as it started.
Kudos to Davion23 and The Dreamer! Nice to see 'real men' still exist!
REFRESHING!
I wouldn't have to stop something that would never start in the first place.website hosting hidden myspace
Sure. Temptation is always present, and I've certainly walked away from it on several occasions. Once, way back when we were pretty newly married, and I was in Saudi Arabia for seven miserable months, and then in Kuwait for three horrible days, I did not walk away from temptation. I cheated on my wife, and I felt horrible afterwards, and I confessed as soon as I was able to face to face. We're still married, still very much in love, 18 years later.
That being said, I think the temptation is not just sex. It also has to do with novelty, and a sense of being desired. I'm not criticizing, at all, but often, married men don't feel desired or admired by their wives. I think the same is often true in wives who stray. It's the desire to feel wanted that leads many to cheat. Not just to have sex, but to feel like you're wanted.
Finally, I would note that monogamy is difficult for nearly all men. I suspect that we are hardwired to spread our seed as far as possible. Behavioral adaptations have dictated the need for monogamy, but that innate instict is still there, and we deal with it with varying degrees of success, and with a variety of techniques. Some men look at porn, some fantasize, some do really stupid and dangerous things like cheat. It's all driven by the same ancient instinct, it just depends on how we handle that instinctive need.
If I sound like a chauvenist, I'm sorry. I don't mean to be. I can't speak for what drives women, nor, obviously, can I speak to all men.How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
I want to know the same thing, mine left me and our family for it...it's so sad
Every farmer rotates their crops
stoping to think about ur family is only in the movies... sorry to say.
When you have a horny girl in front of you grabbing at your pants... then it's really hard to stop... not thinking of the family.. get it?/ thinking, how far is she gonna let me go.
i know it sucks.. but it works both ways... wives are just as bad..
not only men cheat women do it too. our minds and bodies are complicated and there are many reasons for cheating. some people don't even believe in monogamy and justify it in that way, and others just have issues with self-control. every relationship is different and you have to be totally honest with the man you are with and get to understand his way of thinking. does he believe in monogamy? is he satisfied sexually? does he think he can be with only one woman for the rest of his life? have an honest and open convesation with him about all these issues before something like this happens to one of you, because it happens a lot and you want to prevent it by knowing him very well. tell him you won't get upset if he is totaly honest with you even if he says something you don't like to hear.
The best thing to do is to not put one's self in that sort of situation. I wouldn't even put myself at an opportunity to take of some other girl's panties.
I wouldn't have to stop because I wouldn't be there in the first place.
I wouldn't put myself in to a situation where it could escalate to something that would hurt my wife and or kids. Man or woman, they have to know their limits. I don't care who it is but there's always that time when it first starts happening that the same thing runs through every ones mind, ';This probably isn't the best idea.';
Only spouses who really love their partner will cut it all off just as quick as it started.
Kudos to Davion23 and The Dreamer! Nice to see 'real men' still exist!
REFRESHING!
I wouldn't have to stop something that would never start in the first place.
How to deal with emotionally unavailable men?
I want to understand him and show him he can open upHow to deal with emotionally unavailable men?
You just don't, you can't force someone to open up, if they them self don't want to, that will only make things worst.
You just don't, you can't force someone to open up, if they them self don't want to, that will only make things worst.
What is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
My husband who is an emt-iv took me by complete surpise when he told me he wanted one of the new toyota tundra super-crew or at least that's what I think its called(anyway its the biggest toyota makes).
He actually did the papper work and got approved but he did not sign the pappers because he said he wanted to talk to me firstHe said that it was the firefighter in him and everyone that is a firefighter or emt wants a big truck
Anyway,before he worked at the fire hall he would have wanted one of these.I just don't think they are pratical the gas miliage is horriable and I can not imagine how much insurance would be.Do you think I'm wrong about this.We dont need a truck that big we live in a house in town not like on a farm or somewhere that would need this type of vehicle.what do you thinkWhat is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
It's probably a macho thing. Trucks are trophies. Toyota's are great though. They save you money in the long run because they almost never break down.What is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
Small penis complex...
hmmmm.................LOL............
testosterone
Big trucks and fancy extravagant things are usually a sign of low self esteem and compensating for something that they don't have to make themselves feel better....good luck
Coz they are soooooo cool.
There is a positive for you too, in an accident those big SUVs come off with hardly a dent, while small cars get totalled. Not convinced? Go to a car wreckers yard and have a look round
It's a macho thing, that's all. Boys and their toys. There is something about their subconscious ego that invariably projects itself into the material world. Some girls get into ';cute shoes';, some guys fall for the power vehicles. A vast difference, I know ... but to each their own. Leave him alone to work itself out on his own. If he can swing it financially then it's his to be responsible for. If it's going to cut into your joint financial responsibilities then that's another ball game altogether. That part is up to you to decide.
Why not let him have his truck if it makes him happy. As long as there's no financial sacrifice involved that your family can't handle.
But if this is the only family vehicle then it might not be practical. But if it's the second vehicle then I'd say ok, why not?
Plus, he can take you out on rides on the weekends in his big, bad truck. Why not have fun with it?
About the gas mileage: yes, it's probably high. But he probably isn't going to be driving really long distances with it if you live in town. So there won;t be that much usage.
Boys need their toys. Think of the payoff for you. If you let him have this, then he'll appreciate you even more (it's a good way for you to earn long-lasting relationship points!).
Actually pickup trucks have the advantage of being cheaper to insure than most passenger vehicles. The exception being four wheel drive trucks, which are more expensive to insure.
The bottom line should be cost vs. benefit. There are indeed added costs of owning/driving a truck as you've stated. What are the benefits? If it's needed to haul heavy or large payloads or towing then the benefits may be many.
Cool factor only goes so far, perhaps only as far as the gas station...
As a man with no feelings of inadequacy I see many guys who need a crutch to bolster their penis size.
If this is your husband's only ';problem'; you're safe at home plate.
Is this because you don't understand how fun trucks can be? Is it because you don't see yourself driving one? Perhaps it's just that you think he should share your taste in automobiles, maybe get a hybrid or some LBC (little bitty car)?
If you can afford it ...... let him have his toy ... ota. I'm sure there are things you do that he thinks are foolish too.
Hob
He actually did the papper work and got approved but he did not sign the pappers because he said he wanted to talk to me firstHe said that it was the firefighter in him and everyone that is a firefighter or emt wants a big truck
Anyway,before he worked at the fire hall he would have wanted one of these.I just don't think they are pratical the gas miliage is horriable and I can not imagine how much insurance would be.Do you think I'm wrong about this.We dont need a truck that big we live in a house in town not like on a farm or somewhere that would need this type of vehicle.what do you thinkWhat is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
It's probably a macho thing. Trucks are trophies. Toyota's are great though. They save you money in the long run because they almost never break down.What is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
Small penis complex...
hmmmm.................LOL............
testosterone
Big trucks and fancy extravagant things are usually a sign of low self esteem and compensating for something that they don't have to make themselves feel better....good luck
Coz they are soooooo cool.
There is a positive for you too, in an accident those big SUVs come off with hardly a dent, while small cars get totalled. Not convinced? Go to a car wreckers yard and have a look round
It's a macho thing, that's all. Boys and their toys. There is something about their subconscious ego that invariably projects itself into the material world. Some girls get into ';cute shoes';, some guys fall for the power vehicles. A vast difference, I know ... but to each their own. Leave him alone to work itself out on his own. If he can swing it financially then it's his to be responsible for. If it's going to cut into your joint financial responsibilities then that's another ball game altogether. That part is up to you to decide.
Why not let him have his truck if it makes him happy. As long as there's no financial sacrifice involved that your family can't handle.
But if this is the only family vehicle then it might not be practical. But if it's the second vehicle then I'd say ok, why not?
Plus, he can take you out on rides on the weekends in his big, bad truck. Why not have fun with it?
About the gas mileage: yes, it's probably high. But he probably isn't going to be driving really long distances with it if you live in town. So there won;t be that much usage.
Boys need their toys. Think of the payoff for you. If you let him have this, then he'll appreciate you even more (it's a good way for you to earn long-lasting relationship points!).
Actually pickup trucks have the advantage of being cheaper to insure than most passenger vehicles. The exception being four wheel drive trucks, which are more expensive to insure.
The bottom line should be cost vs. benefit. There are indeed added costs of owning/driving a truck as you've stated. What are the benefits? If it's needed to haul heavy or large payloads or towing then the benefits may be many.
Cool factor only goes so far, perhaps only as far as the gas station...
As a man with no feelings of inadequacy I see many guys who need a crutch to bolster their penis size.
If this is your husband's only ';problem'; you're safe at home plate.
Is this because you don't understand how fun trucks can be? Is it because you don't see yourself driving one? Perhaps it's just that you think he should share your taste in automobiles, maybe get a hybrid or some LBC (little bitty car)?
If you can afford it ...... let him have his toy ... ota. I'm sure there are things you do that he thinks are foolish too.
Hob
How can I get over my phobia of men?
I am 18, I have an ';hourglass'; shape and I HATE it!!! I am 5'8/5'9 and weigh 119 pounds; I am thin but my hips won't get any smaller. I had a very ruler shaped body up until I was 15, I liked my body that way. Every single time I dress like a normal girl...I get looked at by men, old men too! So I usually try to look unattractive by wearing loose clothing %26amp; no make-up but that doesn't seem to help. I really can't deal with men constantly bothering me, it makes me extremely uncomfortable because I have horrible social anxiety and I grew up with an abusive father, so I am sort of afraid of men. I have never been kissed, been on a date or had a boyfriend, because I have always kept my distance or turned down any guys that have asked me out :( I seriously want to get over my problems, but I don't know how...can anyone help...PLEASE???How can I get over my phobia of men?
Hit me up on YIM. Rindesayu_Ayame. I could possibly help girl to girl. You seem like you are really suffering because of this. I'd like to help. I've not had the exact problems, but a lot of related things. Despite my personal crap I can still help you. This seems personal. All I can say is your one skinny girl :O Also -_- Men are gross. Sometimes you find good ones.How can I get over my phobia of men?
Find an older guy who thinks with his other head.
You're already on your way. Wanting to change is the first step. Really, men are people too. Of course your probably afraid because your dad, but trust me, there are really good guys out there. It's okay to be cautious sometimes, but don't just think of them as ';men';. Think of them as regular people. If the idea of kissing a guy doesn't sound all that bad, then it's more an issue of confidence. Just go over there and talk to them, because it seems like you sort of want to.
I have had these same issues. Men can seem so aggressive, when they are checking out women. If you have issues already with an abusive father, then this will bother you of course. I had the same type of father. Try to find a guy that is the opposite of him. Find a guy that is kind of shy and gentle. Find a guy that is willing to be friends first and who is willing to take it slow with you. Once you really get to know a nice guy, then you should begin to trust him a lot more.
you could always try talking to a counselor or a friend and just try to think positive about your body! some girls would love that and even though it gives you unwanted attention from some men, it happens to everyone. not sure on how to exactly get rid of the phobia but just try remembering not all guys are jerks and if you happened to find one that is, it's okay because everyone has been through it. you're not alone! keep your guard up and respect yourself. :)
Further dress down - sweats and loose tops. no makeup, plain shoes and hair.
Men will behave themselves - you are safe. Just take care of yourself and don't be caught alone.
By and large, we're pretty nice as a species.
just a metaphore; if you're driving down the highway looking for red cars, you find red cars - but you'll be ignoring the other pretty colored cars out there.
Hope that made sense.
lol u have problems grow up
Stare back. Don't be shy, just say ';What are you looking at?';
Hit me up on YIM. Rindesayu_Ayame. I could possibly help girl to girl. You seem like you are really suffering because of this. I'd like to help. I've not had the exact problems, but a lot of related things. Despite my personal crap I can still help you. This seems personal. All I can say is your one skinny girl :O Also -_- Men are gross. Sometimes you find good ones.How can I get over my phobia of men?
Find an older guy who thinks with his other head.
You're already on your way. Wanting to change is the first step. Really, men are people too. Of course your probably afraid because your dad, but trust me, there are really good guys out there. It's okay to be cautious sometimes, but don't just think of them as ';men';. Think of them as regular people. If the idea of kissing a guy doesn't sound all that bad, then it's more an issue of confidence. Just go over there and talk to them, because it seems like you sort of want to.
I have had these same issues. Men can seem so aggressive, when they are checking out women. If you have issues already with an abusive father, then this will bother you of course. I had the same type of father. Try to find a guy that is the opposite of him. Find a guy that is kind of shy and gentle. Find a guy that is willing to be friends first and who is willing to take it slow with you. Once you really get to know a nice guy, then you should begin to trust him a lot more.
you could always try talking to a counselor or a friend and just try to think positive about your body! some girls would love that and even though it gives you unwanted attention from some men, it happens to everyone. not sure on how to exactly get rid of the phobia but just try remembering not all guys are jerks and if you happened to find one that is, it's okay because everyone has been through it. you're not alone! keep your guard up and respect yourself. :)
Further dress down - sweats and loose tops. no makeup, plain shoes and hair.
Men will behave themselves - you are safe. Just take care of yourself and don't be caught alone.
By and large, we're pretty nice as a species.
just a metaphore; if you're driving down the highway looking for red cars, you find red cars - but you'll be ignoring the other pretty colored cars out there.
Hope that made sense.
lol u have problems grow up
Stare back. Don't be shy, just say ';What are you looking at?';
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