Saturday, August 21, 2010

How to deal with online men who...?

I have a few websites and presences on the web (this being just one) which attract ALOT of emails from guys.





How to respond to those who aren't customers (of the website I make money from)???





I feel bad for ignoring so many emails... would an auto response be okay? Something generic copied and pasted about how I don't have the time to personally answer each and every single email...?





Curious to hear ideas and opinions...


Thanks!How to deal with online men who...?
This is just a joke right change your user name.





I have answered you before i think these are games instead of question which you need help.





Sounds as if your promoting your web-sites for more business.





I do believe your in violation of Yahoo!Answers guild lines.How to deal with online men who...?
Just curious as to why your 360 says you LOVE to get emails?





Which is it? yes or no to emails? Or are you just being a woman and really dont know what you want....
sorry to hear you are too busy, if you do the automated thing it will not be good for the money making sites.
You don't think Ann Launders read every letter sent to she do you? You're a celeb,hire an aide. ;%26gt;)

My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?

Is this normal?


How do other women deal with men that refuse to show affection (apart from sex) and have a conversation. I have tried showing him what I like by specifying it and even to the point of writing it down for him. I dont want to tell him he has to tell me he loves me or else it feels fake.


Is it normal for me to stop talking to us? I dont think I've upset him in anyway. Otherwise he appears very very happy...who wouldn't be with a slave on tap.My husband seems to want to talk to his friends but can't communicate with women?
So why did you marry him in the first place?

Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?

As a female Massage/Reflexology Therapist what is the best way to deal with men if you decide you would prefer not to treat them or if you only want to provide certain treatments. Is it discrimination? I am asking this question purely based on the security aspect as I would be offering a mobile service as well as having people into my own home. I am sure the majority of men are fine and I dont really want to exclude them as clients altogether..any advice would be welcome on how to handle this.Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
Of course it's discrimination.





But I don't know whether you fall under the public accommodation laws that make it an 'illegal' discrimination.





And on that note, - you just have to weight the risks that someone wants to sue you for discrimination.Is it considered discrimination to choose not to treat men if you are a female Therapist?
I really don't know but i think it would be unfair to the therapist if you couldn't. I wanted to be a massage therapist but only would wnat to massage women. I figured that wouldn't go over well so i decided not to. But I guess I could be a sport massage therapist for a volleyball team or something. Anyways i don't think it's discrimination. Personally though I wouldn't feel comfortable getting a massage form a man and I figure a lot of men feel the same.
I don't know about discrimination since you have perticular concerns and situations. If you are a private provider you can choose whom you wish to work with. If you are employed by a public group then discrimination may be an issue.
I think that if you have an all across the board rule of treating only women, then its okay with a profession like that. Its kind of like treating only a certain age group, which is totally acceptable.
yea
No it isn't discrimination. If you don't feel comfortable with men, you won't be doing the excellent job that you were trained to do providing customer satisfaction.

How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?

i saw this movie lat night '; i think i love my wife'; with my husband and i remember seeing it before but i didnt remember the full movie, anyway for those of you that have seen it.. at the end just when he's taking off her panties he looks in the mirror and remembers playing with his kids and doesnt go through with having sex with this other women that is not his wife.. How many of you would do the same thing? and why is sex such a big deal to men if there is a moment in time that you dont have sex with your wife? there are other options why would you go to another female?How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
Sure. Temptation is always present, and I've certainly walked away from it on several occasions. Once, way back when we were pretty newly married, and I was in Saudi Arabia for seven miserable months, and then in Kuwait for three horrible days, I did not walk away from temptation. I cheated on my wife, and I felt horrible afterwards, and I confessed as soon as I was able to face to face. We're still married, still very much in love, 18 years later.





That being said, I think the temptation is not just sex. It also has to do with novelty, and a sense of being desired. I'm not criticizing, at all, but often, married men don't feel desired or admired by their wives. I think the same is often true in wives who stray. It's the desire to feel wanted that leads many to cheat. Not just to have sex, but to feel like you're wanted.





Finally, I would note that monogamy is difficult for nearly all men. I suspect that we are hardwired to spread our seed as far as possible. Behavioral adaptations have dictated the need for monogamy, but that innate instict is still there, and we deal with it with varying degrees of success, and with a variety of techniques. Some men look at porn, some fantasize, some do really stupid and dangerous things like cheat. It's all driven by the same ancient instinct, it just depends on how we handle that instinctive need.





If I sound like a chauvenist, I'm sorry. I don't mean to be. I can't speak for what drives women, nor, obviously, can I speak to all men.How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
I want to know the same thing, mine left me and our family for it...it's so sad
Every farmer rotates their crops
stoping to think about ur family is only in the movies... sorry to say.





When you have a horny girl in front of you grabbing at your pants... then it's really hard to stop... not thinking of the family.. get it?/ thinking, how far is she gonna let me go.





i know it sucks.. but it works both ways... wives are just as bad..
not only men cheat women do it too. our minds and bodies are complicated and there are many reasons for cheating. some people don't even believe in monogamy and justify it in that way, and others just have issues with self-control. every relationship is different and you have to be totally honest with the man you are with and get to understand his way of thinking. does he believe in monogamy? is he satisfied sexually? does he think he can be with only one woman for the rest of his life? have an honest and open convesation with him about all these issues before something like this happens to one of you, because it happens a lot and you want to prevent it by knowing him very well. tell him you won't get upset if he is totaly honest with you even if he says something you don't like to hear.
The best thing to do is to not put one's self in that sort of situation. I wouldn't even put myself at an opportunity to take of some other girl's panties.





I wouldn't have to stop because I wouldn't be there in the first place.
I wouldn't put myself in to a situation where it could escalate to something that would hurt my wife and or kids. Man or woman, they have to know their limits. I don't care who it is but there's always that time when it first starts happening that the same thing runs through every ones mind, ';This probably isn't the best idea.';





Only spouses who really love their partner will cut it all off just as quick as it started.
Kudos to Davion23 and The Dreamer! Nice to see 'real men' still exist!


REFRESHING!
I wouldn't have to stop something that would never start in the first place.
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    I want to understand him and show him he can open upHow to deal with emotionally unavailable men?
    You just don't, you can't force someone to open up, if they them self don't want to, that will only make things worst.

    What is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?

    My husband who is an emt-iv took me by complete surpise when he told me he wanted one of the new toyota tundra super-crew or at least that's what I think its called(anyway its the biggest toyota makes).


    He actually did the papper work and got approved but he did not sign the pappers because he said he wanted to talk to me firstHe said that it was the firefighter in him and everyone that is a firefighter or emt wants a big truck





    Anyway,before he worked at the fire hall he would have wanted one of these.I just don't think they are pratical the gas miliage is horriable and I can not imagine how much insurance would be.Do you think I'm wrong about this.We dont need a truck that big we live in a house in town not like on a farm or somewhere that would need this type of vehicle.what do you thinkWhat is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
    It's probably a macho thing. Trucks are trophies. Toyota's are great though. They save you money in the long run because they almost never break down.What is the big deal with man and having to have the biggest baddest truck?
    Small penis complex...
    hmmmm.................LOL............
    testosterone
    Big trucks and fancy extravagant things are usually a sign of low self esteem and compensating for something that they don't have to make themselves feel better....good luck
    Coz they are soooooo cool.





    There is a positive for you too, in an accident those big SUVs come off with hardly a dent, while small cars get totalled. Not convinced? Go to a car wreckers yard and have a look round
    It's a macho thing, that's all. Boys and their toys. There is something about their subconscious ego that invariably projects itself into the material world. Some girls get into ';cute shoes';, some guys fall for the power vehicles. A vast difference, I know ... but to each their own. Leave him alone to work itself out on his own. If he can swing it financially then it's his to be responsible for. If it's going to cut into your joint financial responsibilities then that's another ball game altogether. That part is up to you to decide.
    Why not let him have his truck if it makes him happy. As long as there's no financial sacrifice involved that your family can't handle.





    But if this is the only family vehicle then it might not be practical. But if it's the second vehicle then I'd say ok, why not?





    Plus, he can take you out on rides on the weekends in his big, bad truck. Why not have fun with it?





    About the gas mileage: yes, it's probably high. But he probably isn't going to be driving really long distances with it if you live in town. So there won;t be that much usage.





    Boys need their toys. Think of the payoff for you. If you let him have this, then he'll appreciate you even more (it's a good way for you to earn long-lasting relationship points!).
    Actually pickup trucks have the advantage of being cheaper to insure than most passenger vehicles. The exception being four wheel drive trucks, which are more expensive to insure.





    The bottom line should be cost vs. benefit. There are indeed added costs of owning/driving a truck as you've stated. What are the benefits? If it's needed to haul heavy or large payloads or towing then the benefits may be many.





    Cool factor only goes so far, perhaps only as far as the gas station...
    As a man with no feelings of inadequacy I see many guys who need a crutch to bolster their penis size.
    If this is your husband's only ';problem'; you're safe at home plate.





    Is this because you don't understand how fun trucks can be? Is it because you don't see yourself driving one? Perhaps it's just that you think he should share your taste in automobiles, maybe get a hybrid or some LBC (little bitty car)?





    If you can afford it ...... let him have his toy ... ota. I'm sure there are things you do that he thinks are foolish too.





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    How can I get over my phobia of men?

    I am 18, I have an ';hourglass'; shape and I HATE it!!! I am 5'8/5'9 and weigh 119 pounds; I am thin but my hips won't get any smaller. I had a very ruler shaped body up until I was 15, I liked my body that way. Every single time I dress like a normal girl...I get looked at by men, old men too! So I usually try to look unattractive by wearing loose clothing %26amp; no make-up but that doesn't seem to help. I really can't deal with men constantly bothering me, it makes me extremely uncomfortable because I have horrible social anxiety and I grew up with an abusive father, so I am sort of afraid of men. I have never been kissed, been on a date or had a boyfriend, because I have always kept my distance or turned down any guys that have asked me out :( I seriously want to get over my problems, but I don't know how...can anyone help...PLEASE???How can I get over my phobia of men?
    Hit me up on YIM. Rindesayu_Ayame. I could possibly help girl to girl. You seem like you are really suffering because of this. I'd like to help. I've not had the exact problems, but a lot of related things. Despite my personal crap I can still help you. This seems personal. All I can say is your one skinny girl :O Also -_- Men are gross. Sometimes you find good ones.How can I get over my phobia of men?
    Find an older guy who thinks with his other head.
    You're already on your way. Wanting to change is the first step. Really, men are people too. Of course your probably afraid because your dad, but trust me, there are really good guys out there. It's okay to be cautious sometimes, but don't just think of them as ';men';. Think of them as regular people. If the idea of kissing a guy doesn't sound all that bad, then it's more an issue of confidence. Just go over there and talk to them, because it seems like you sort of want to.
    I have had these same issues. Men can seem so aggressive, when they are checking out women. If you have issues already with an abusive father, then this will bother you of course. I had the same type of father. Try to find a guy that is the opposite of him. Find a guy that is kind of shy and gentle. Find a guy that is willing to be friends first and who is willing to take it slow with you. Once you really get to know a nice guy, then you should begin to trust him a lot more.
    you could always try talking to a counselor or a friend and just try to think positive about your body! some girls would love that and even though it gives you unwanted attention from some men, it happens to everyone. not sure on how to exactly get rid of the phobia but just try remembering not all guys are jerks and if you happened to find one that is, it's okay because everyone has been through it. you're not alone! keep your guard up and respect yourself. :)
    Further dress down - sweats and loose tops. no makeup, plain shoes and hair.





    Men will behave themselves - you are safe. Just take care of yourself and don't be caught alone.





    By and large, we're pretty nice as a species.





    just a metaphore; if you're driving down the highway looking for red cars, you find red cars - but you'll be ignoring the other pretty colored cars out there.








    Hope that made sense.
    lol u have problems grow up
    Stare back. Don't be shy, just say ';What are you looking at?';

    Read it all men and porn plz?

    Okay heres the deal, My man will occasionally gaze at girls prettier then me when were out in public, i try to act like i dont notice it, but the other day he slipped out this comment that was sooo wrong and i could tell he felt bad right after he said it, I said sort of putting myself down and jokingly, ';I wished i looked like jessica alba maybe you would like me more'; and he said ';If you looked like that babe youd never get left alone'; So he pretty much said if i looked like that he would F*ck me more. I'm not one to show much emotion but when her sexuality part came up to the t.v. i said i needed to go to the bathroom and he caught me balling my freaking eyes out. he apologized a million times and everything, i know he didn't say it purposelessly, he freaking adores me. But what the problem was later on that night i was playing on this computer, and he was behind me playing on the laptop, and i heard him get super quiet out of nowhere, i got up and seen the light change on his face, he was watching porn, i would be sort of upset about him doing this, but it was just the SAME day he said that to me. Thats the first time i ever caught him watching it, i know he doesn't do it often. So i gave him a dose of his own freaking medicine i looked at naked men with big schlongs so he would catch me, he got super quiet and was really upset. We talked about it and he said this other women non sense has got to stop, he never knew how bad this hurt me, and he admits if i did the same it would hurt. I know this is his first real relationship, Hes always been a sweetie and girls have looked right past him, I'm also guilty of this, he chased me for years, weve been working on his lying, because hes so fragile with me, when i can handle the truth. but should i even be giving him another chance on this, i feel like hes lying to me b/c he wont stop, and might eventually cheat, i think he just doesn't want me to do it back so he lies to make me feel better. Should i give him another chance?Read it all men and porn plz?
    hmmmm, my wife is hotter than jessica alba, so i can't answer your question.Read it all men and porn plz?
    Zzzzzzzzzzzzz.





    You need to be more concise, Tolstoy.
    Thats hard to say. I would tell him what bothers you and if he doesnt care and does it again then i would dump him.If a guy loves you he wont do things that bother you.
    First of all both of you need to grow up. You asking him those stupid questions you are only wanting him to say something sweet like your the only one for me however it didn't work out that way. Stop asking stupid questions then you wouldn't get hurtful answers. You then cought him looking at porn believe me that wasn't his first time and I bet it is not his last. You going on the internet looking at porn yourself really didn't upset him actually it probably turned him on but he probably thinks that you want him to act upset so he did. Grow up.
    so what he likes porn


    why are you so threatened


    oh yeah he is not into you anymore


    hmmmm.,.....


    time to move on and find someone who like you


    and let him have his fun


    stop nagging him


    maybe (now this is an idea) you give him all those sexual thing s he wants instead of acting like a big old baby and nag and pout


    maybe he will find you interesting then????
    listen here.. when a man says he is sorry it's only to cover up at that moment.. sorries should never be said unless it's meant that it'll never happen again...stop crying over pitifull things and go make him jealous.. get yourself looking all nice and dolled up and go out together.. be confident and not needing to hold his hand or walk by his side to show you are not afraid to stand alone.. he'll come crawling for taking you for granted.. the more you show that you are hurt by this the more he'll do it.. sometimes to beat them is to join them.. it's either that or cry alone and hope for the hopeless..
    porn is porn and its very unrealistic to expect a man not to watch it and get turned on by it. when he starts getting addicted and wont have anything to do with you, then you should be worried about it. them looking at other women is normal too. as long as they are not touching. i used to feel like porn and looking at other women was wrong in a relationship, but i grew up. i don't think that him looking at porn and other women will lead to him cheating
    I got to say you sound a little sickening just a little no offense but you want him to be honest and tell you the truth then you say I am fragile well you can't be a pilot if you are afraid of flying girl. Now don't get me wrong he was a butt head for saying that jessica thing but I think you might have went to deep with that one. As far as that I would give him another chance now when it comes to lying I say no if he lies a lot you will never trust him. I know a few ppl who lie for no reason at all and I don't trust any of them.
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  • How Can I Stop Feeling So Angry At Men?

    It's all very strange- I really like most of the men I know. I have a wonderful boyfriend. The majority of my close friends are male. Still, I have this lingering anger towards men in general that never seems to go away. I read articles about women being battered and raped, men doing cruel things to each other, men scoffing at women's equality and trying to take posession of their reproductive rights, and it makes me so angry I feel sick. I know not all men are like that, and that judging people is wrong, but it just hits me like a wave. I get scared that I'm going to leave my boyfriend someday because I'll stop being able to deal with men.





    When I was younger, an older man took advantage of me, and I'm still trying to get over how dirty and low that made me feel.





    I'm not a hateful person, and I try to keep this anger inside, but it's really eating me up. It seems like men all hate women and see them as lesser creatures. I need a new way of thinking- can anyone help?How Can I Stop Feeling So Angry At Men?
    Thats tough. I get angry over those things too and sometimes I generalize my anger towards all men in the US. For the most part I try to recognize that there are allot of men who are genuinely awesome like my husband who is a feminist, and my male friends who all respect women. I try to surround myself with men and women who I feel are good people and respect all people regardless of race and gender. When I meet misogynists, I tend to avoid them. When I meet people who I'd like to be friends with, but who make misogynistic statements, I call them on it, and if they realize their being assholes, great, if not, I tend to avoid them. Also, I take hope in that not all cultures treat women like crap, the Minangkabau, a Islamic ethnic group in Indonesia, are matrilineal and characterized by their gender equality and great respect and importance placed on women. So maybe there is hope. At least we live in a country were people pretend to treat women equally, so things can get better as long as we try. In the mean time, be strong and appreciate those around you that are good people. And maybe some counseling might be helpful to deal with the feelings and fears you have. Good luck! :)How Can I Stop Feeling So Angry At Men?
    Would it help you to understand that women can be just as bad? I don't mean that in an insulting way, it's just that if you see that men and women are more or less equal it should help with reducing your anger against men.
    You need to forgive him, as of what happened along time ago...I was the same many many years ago...I hated men...but as time went by I had to forgive and let it go...for he had no problems moving on with life, I am the one who did...So yes, first you must forgive this person, and let it all go...and once done you will find yourself with peace and peace of mind and will be able to move forward as well.
    Try to remember there are nice men out there too.
    I know how you feel. I can relate to what you experienced when you were little. I get angry too, thinking about the way things are in the world. I'm tired of all the ugly things that happen to women. I'm tired of realizing that almost every woman I meet has either been raped or molested. I think you need to put all that anger and energy into helping other women as well as men fight to maintain the rights we all deserve as human beings.There are men who are just as angry about the things that other men do to women. I think you should talk to your boyfriend too, get his opinion on things, realize that he's not a woman, yes, but he's human, and as humans we all suffer the same. There are men out there waiting to fight with you for and protect the things you're worried about.
    when I was older, a younger woman abused me, I dont hate women
    What ur feeling is normal so dont be so hard on urself, but dont discount the power of forgiveness. Once u can find a way to forgive you are set free of this hold that this man has over u in these feelings that you have towards men in general. Once u are able to forgive you will have won and beaten him. Look inside your heart for this power:).


    Physical and sexual abuse is wrong

    Dealing with men who have versus men who don't?

    My current boyfriend has everything. He's nice, has a good paying career, looks sexy, is affectionate, he takes me out, wines, dines, and takes me dancing, is very supportive, spends alot of time with me and to my knowledge faithful. I've never been with a man like this. I've had to basically support all of my past boyfriends and most were abusive. I was so caught up in love with past boyfriends and I do love my current boyfriend, but sometimes he makes me feel unneeded because besides sex there is not much I can do for him and I feel like I could be replaced any day if he feels like it. Can you ladies tell me how to deal and cope with this? Thanks.Dealing with men who have versus men who don't?
    Just make sure he knows how lucky you feel that you have him and do little things to show you appreciate him. If he's doing all this for you, he obviously likes you a lot...he's not gonna just ';replace'; you. He wouldn't be treating you like this if he didn't want you.Dealing with men who have versus men who don't?
    I'm not a lady but I can tell you, guys just want to be appreciated by their girlfriend for all the hard work they do to them. Just by showing him that your happy will be enough for him.

    I asked men the following question about breastfeeding (Woman responses only please)?

    ';Question is for straight/bi men only.





    What if you will never have a chance to see Jessica Alba's or Megan Fox's nude breasts, except for this one chance to see the breasts/nipples of these two girls in a video clip (you get to keep) of them breastfeeding. With them showing their breasts and nipples completely nude for 5 minutes. Would you want to see the video or would not want to see the video? If you do want to see the video, would it sexually arouse you (not because of the baby of course, but because of the breasts/nipples)?





    Please answer honestly';








    The results showed 9/9 men wanted to see the breasts/nipples





    How does this make you woman feel about breastfeeding in public, knowing that 9/9 men said yes?





    Do you think that the western world has gone too far in making boobs/nipples such a big deal for men?I asked men the following question about breastfeeding (Woman responses only please)?
    i think that men are naturally attracted to breasts, just like how babies naturally root for the breast. that being said, i am not surprised that the men wanted to see the breasts.





    i do think the western world has gone too far not just with men but EVERYONE. the women get the breast implants to attract men, knowing full well that it could render them useless for breastfeeding in the future. THAT is pathetic to me.I asked men the following question about breastfeeding (Woman responses only please)?
    I am not going to stop breast feeding in public because of perverted men. They would not be there if not for feeding a child.





    I do think breast have become too sexualized. Even though they can be sex objects, that's not their main purpose. Hey, some people get turned on by their ears, do they get all antsy when they see someone's ears. Sexulation of breasts is okay, but the main purpose of breasts needs to remain an infant's nutrition.
    How does this make you woman feel about breastfeeding in public, knowing that 9/9 men said yes? It does not make me feel any differently about someone breastfeeding in public. They are feeding a child not trying to get looks from men.





    Do you think that the western world has gone too far in making boobs/nipples such a big deal for men? Absolutely.
    It doesn't change my view on it either. And, those are some sex symbol women. Not all moms are hot, so maybe they wouldn't want to see EVERYONES nipples. Haha, this question made me smile, because when I breastfeed in front of my boyfriend, I do it like nothing, just whip the boob out and I'm a lot less ';tryin to hurry and keep it covered while doing it'; like I am out in public (I always put a blanket over first before anything) and he always looks and says something like ';oooo';....lol
    Personally, I'm against breastfeeding in public. It's something meant to be kept private. I'm not a mother, but when I see one breastfeeding in public, I'm slightly disgusted.





    Regarding your question, though, I prefer that men relate my breasts to sex then to feeding. My breasts are no feeding devices.
    It doesn't surprise me. Men are pigs. It's sad that society has turned something that was made to feed our children into something sexual. I know women who refused to breastfeed their babies because they quote ';don't want to take something sexual %26amp; put it in their baby's mouth';. What is wrong with people?
    I have to agree we aren't Jessica Alba haha... Of course most men would say that because they see these women as the most gorgeous women alive, most of us moms dont look like these two women.





    BTW not all men know who these two women are, I know for sure my husband knows who Jessica Alba is but no clue who Megan Fox is lol.
    I believe it. Then again most women's body don't look like either of them but still the breast and nipple are considered a sexual tool which is sad because it is this thinking that disrupts part of the normal process of breastfeeding.
    uuuhm, i breast feed all the time in public,i honestly don't think anyones noticed yet, even so, it's not like i'm nude doing it, everything is covered.
    I showed your initial question to my husband and his response was ';who are they?';


    personally my opinion is that if they haven't grown up enough to be able to see breasts as more than just sex objects then they shouldn't be let out without their keeper.
    It doesn't make me feel anything really.





    We already know that the US sexualizes everything, so this is no surprise to me.
    Well, I'm happy I'm not Jessica Alba or Megan Fox.
    I'm not Jessica Alba. lol
    if i'm in public my nips dont show.





    So i don't care much.
    okay i totally agree with breast feeding in public is okay. i breast fed my son . but i didnt breast feed him in public i would pump a give it to him in a bottle. my problem with breast feeding in public is that some nasty man is later going to be jacking off thinking about your breast and it just grossed me out . i think breast feeding is the most beautiful thing on earth it brings tears to my eyes seeing women breast feeding their infants . men that are like huge perverts have made it hard for woman to breast feed in public. and i blame all the advertising on breast . they are for human nature for infants to be healthy . not for some man to feel lick touch whatever dont get me wrong it feels great but they are mainly there for breast feeding . that is my opion
    This is part of the reason why I only breastfed for 3 weeks: too many pervs outside and I was sick of staying home, I wanted to go out and socialise for more than 1 hour at a time...


    The other part is that my baby only suckled a bit at a time and always seemed hungry. I was getting tired of all the screaming and lazy suckling.


    Ok you have the whole story here.

    How many men don't get sex from their wives and why do they stay?

    How many men don't get sex from their wives and why do they stay? i am just curious. I fell in love with a married man and even though we don't have sex we have messed around. He is so perfect for me except he's married. He tries so hard to be faithful and I respect this cuz to be honest I am scared to fall even deeper. So, He goes out of his way for her and she does nothing in return. What is the deal with men who do this. This isn't about me. I would just like to know why a man would put up with this especially since he has only been married a year with no children.How many men don't get sex from their wives and why do they stay?
    More than you can imagine but I will caution you to avoid advice from the expert masses who truly have a very limited View of the problem. As with all things, do not pass judgment or give advice until you have lived the situation and can speak from experience rather than opinion cause we all know about opinions. The reasons a man would stay in a sexless (or loveless for that matter) marriage could be one or more of the following.


    Children. Staying to make sure your children are provided for or have a stable environment.


    Money. The system is not always fair and balanced when it comes to divorce and most men find themselves with the choice of staying and being miserable or leaving an being financially ruined and miserable.


    Some men also realize that their wives will out and out have no where to go and no means of supporting themselves so to leave would effectively be throwing them out in the street.


    that is a partial list to be sure and any one of those reasons is a consideration as to why a man would stay in a sexless marriage and why the same man would look outside that marriage for what is missing. ask youself how many men are living all three of those examples and what that would drive them to. And before you type a reply, I speak from experience.


    How many men don't get sex from their wives and why do they stay?
    He's probably lying about it to you and telling you all this crap about his wife which isn't true.





    And if he's messing around with you I don't think he's ';trying hard to be faithful';.





    There are lots of reasons why a man would stay in a sexless marriage (feeling they have to, still liking the wife or the relationship for other reasons, social status, financial reasons, kids) but like I said probably cheating guys like yours aren't really having a sexless marriage they just say they are.





    Harriet
    You said... ';He tries so hard to be faithful and I respect this';


    If you did respect him that way you wouldn't be messing around with him end of story.


    Why do married men stay in sexless marriages? Because some things are more important, and he is scared because he sees how easy woman are(from you) and if he was single he doesn't want to get an STD ...
    guilt
    Probably no sex suits him fine.


    Otherwise he would have bedded you long ago.
    You are feeding his EGO .





    She does do things for him I'm sure .





    Unless your in their bedroom , then you really don't know what


    they do , or how good she does him , do you ?





    Being the other Women , you only know what he tells you .





    You should realize that his wife is his first choice , and that he


    is cheating on her with you , so ask yourself this question :





    Would a cheating husband LIE ?





    Answer : YES !!!!
    if anyone knows the answer let me know, right now im wanting to split from my wife so bad...but we have an almost 3 months old son...i just suck it up because i have seen enough about children growing with no parents or split parents...etc...
    sound like you're already in deep with this married man. since you admitted that the two of you have mess around. well how long have they been dating before got married? that is odd for someone who only been married a year and she is already cut him off from sex. that is why too hard for me to believe. even if he had cheated on his newly wife, she would be screaming for divorce from him. his is playing you!!
    The better question is why do girls mess around with married men? Hmmm.....poor self esteem, low self worth, loving drama, being dramatic---I could keep going. He's not perfect for you, he's married to someone else. He's lying to you, just like he's lying to her. He hasn't had sex with you because he feels guilty because he loves HER, not you. Not to be a b***h, but to him, you are easy and pathetic---that's why he messes around with you and goes home to her. Sexless or not, they respects their vows and takes it seriously. That's more than I can say for you. He's not going to tell you he's happily married and just trying to mess around on the side. Tell him you're going to call his wife and watch how fast he ditches you. He's a cheater, and he very well may have kids--sounds like he has some trust issues. When this all comes out into the open---he will be at home with his wife trying to work it out, and you will be alone. Wait until you're married, karma's a b***h.
    Yeah I agree with some of the other responses. He's probably just lying to you. If he's trying so hard to be faithful, he wouldn't be cheating on her. Men stay with their wifes when there is no sex because they probably love them and that sex really isn't the most important things in a marriage when other things are going on. And if you respected him so much, then you would stay away from him since he is ';Married';. If you didn't want this question to be about you, then you shouldn't have put all the details about that the married guy.
    For one thing lady HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT SHE ISN'T GIVING HIM SEX? He could be just telling you that to make you feel sorry for him and get in your pants.... So what it sounds like is that you just want to brake up there marriage WHY DON'T YOU GET YOUR OWN LIFE AND LIVE THERE MARRIAGE ALONE?........Plus it is just showing everyone what kind of person you are....Is you said that he wants to work out there marriage then why don't you take the hint that he doesn't want you he wants his wife..............There are a lot of single men out there for you to mess around on so go fine them..........

    Do men have too much pride/ego?

    Hi. I'm engaged to a man who has a serious issue with pride and/or ego. I'm trying to read up on this maybe to see some of the signs or something so I can present the ';evidence'; to him. I'd also like to read on how a woman might be able to deal with such a stubborn, prideful person who is just too smart for his own good. Too full of pride to admit when he's wrong or take advice or directions, etc.





    Anyway, I don't want to read anything highly academic or scientific/psychological. But, I haven't been able to find any real info online. Can anyone point me to a linked article on women who deal with men who have inflated egos? Or perhaps something on men who have too much pride?





    Thanks much! The best link will get you ';best answer.';Do men have too much pride/ego?
    I don't think men have too much pride/ego, some people have too much pride/ego. I think you would find better answers to your questions if you look at him as a ';person'; rather than a ';man'; with an issue with pride and/or ego.Do men have too much pride/ego?
    Don't marry him. It will not work out.





    Read ';Games People Play'; by Eric Berne. You should be able to find it at the library.
    When dealing with peoplelike that you gotta understand that, if you try to talk to him on a consios(sorry for the spelling)level? it won't do any good. Don't undermine yourself knocking his doors, trying to talk to him like an adult to an adult. Instead treat him like he is weaker and more foolish, and you will see how he is going to try to find an approach to you him self.
    YES, i would hazard a guess that about 90-95% of us do have it, but it does come in varying degrees. Like it has been said in myth's, that there is at least some drop of truth, well i am sure you have heard of the thing about men and asking directions, well, that is just a drop in the bucket. So you have to get him to admit it and try and work on it, or learn to live with it and maybe temper it some over time, or just find another guy that is not quite as bad, and i am sorry to say that those are pretty much your only options. Good luck. I found an article that can give you some info, but it probably won't answer all of your questions, but it will give you some insight. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/rabbi-shmu鈥?/a>
    i think women have more
    i havent got an article for you but i do have a fool proof method for getting a man to pay attention and listen up....calmly turn around and walk away...if they really love you and have care and concern for you...they will drop some of that pride and ego(burden that it is) in order to go after you...if they dont catch up to you...they havent dropped enough(holding on to too much still) hope that helps...and good luck

    How are men supposed to view women as their ';complements'; or ';equals'; when women treat them like the enemy?

    As evidenced by:


    1) their lack of living by the Golden Rule (i.e. expecting things from men they don't want expected of themselves)


    2) treating men as potential rapists with a guilty-before-innocent mentality


    3) pushing for more unfair laws which hurt men's quality of life (divorce, child custody, etc)


    4) lie to men with dishonest double talk and otherwise don't deal with men in a way that shows integrity


    5) otherwise treating men as beast of burdenHow are men supposed to view women as their ';complements'; or ';equals'; when women treat them like the enemy?
    forget about playing by their rules, because their rules are not fair.How are men supposed to view women as their ';complements'; or ';equals'; when women treat them like the enemy?
    which is why feminism (or *some* feminists) is hypocritical
    You can't speak for every woman on the planet.
    Sorry, you feel that way. Sounds like you have been scorned and put all women in the same category, which is the same thing as your question. Right?
    'women' don't treat men like the enemy.





    feminists do.
    Not all women are like this. It seems like you've had the misfortune of dating some women who weren't very nice people.
    WoW!!..


    I agree with points 1 %26amp; 4 though....








    number 1 especially is almost EVERY women... so don't let them tell you otherwise








    dR bad


    but.. maybe thats because they are *special*... and we are not鈽?*sighs*
    Other than wasting time here I never come across women like this.





    And if I actually do I don't really associate with them so it is a non-issue
    Well, let me turn your question around. What about men who feel women are ';servants'; instead of ';equals';? I can provide evidence too.





    1) Their lack of help doing domestic chores such as laundry, cooking, cleaning (especially bathrooms), etc.


    2) Judging women based on looks rather than substance, thereby objectifying them for sex.


    3) Treating women as though they are there only to take care of the children and family without assistance from the man unless discipline is necessary.


    4) While single, seeking only sex and then complaining because their wife has had partners in the past.


    5) Lying and misrepresenting themselves to get sex, refusing relationships but demanding sex, etc.


    6) Cheating on their spouses.








    See? Its pretty easy to generalize and make someone look bad by doing so. Also, my ';evidence'; is just as valid as yours - they're both generalizations based on stereotypes.
    You're going to get a mixed answer from me on these:





    1. I agree with you on this one. Men can do many important things that women can't and women know it. The genders will never be equal.





    2. Men need to live with this stereotype. They are potentially dangerous, and only a really stupid woman would refuse to be a bit cautious around any of them that she doesn't know well. Sorry.





    3. I agree that the laws are unfair to men. I also think it makes men less willing to commit, and women should face up to their part in that.





    4. Each sex lies to the other; that's nothing new. If you're talking about feminism, I agree that they are huge hypocrites.





    5. On average, men are smarter and stronger; they will always be ';beasts of burden.'; I think it's sad that more women can't admit it and express a little gratitude to men for doing the things we largely cannot do. (Thank you!)
    I'm peeved that you NEVER help me wash out the beakers and titration tubes here at work; you go ';mmm mmm mmm'; at the male dancers' butts and crotches on DWTS; you objectify me as a wallet with legs; that you cannot accept a compliment with grace, you have to qualify it to match your level of low self-esteem; that you quote statistics that have had stakes of fact driven through them for so long even the wood is developing moss on the north side...
    I will agree that some women don't give you the ';benefit of a doubt';, expect more than they give in return, and think of men as walking paychecks. But most honestly don't.





    You also don't seem to understand that not all men want all women. If women are supposed to live the Biblical ideal as helpmeet, there has to be a man to be leader, etc in their lives. If such a person does not present himself, then a woman can't live her life in that manner.





    Also, modern living means that a woman cannot simply ';wait'; for the man to appear. She has to go on living and protecting her rights/space and plan in the event that ';he'; doesn't come.





    And marriage, even based in the Church, is not always guaranteed to work, not unless both parties will work and love constantly and follow certain principles. So women can't be ';helpmeets'; all the time, if the one they are supposed to be helping is not doing his part or wants no part of a relationship.





    There are so many things wrong with what you are saying, only because what you are saying is not taking into account different situations....
    It's a lie that all women treat all men like the enemy.





    We ARE equally human to men; it's not unreasonable to expect other people to grasp this blindingly obvious fact.





    Uh, dunno what you're referring to.





    It's a lie all women treat ALL men as potential rapists. It's sensible to not go off alone with a total stranger.





    It's a lie all women push for unfair laws.





    It's a lie that all women lie to men.





    It's a lie that all women treat all men as a best of burden. IF a man is physically stronger, then it's no unreasonable to ask him to carry things to heavy for her to carry. That's not ';treating him as a beast of burden'; unless that constitutes their entire relationship.





    The reason all women treat YOU is the enemy is because you make up and believe a lot of ugly lies about women.
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    Is it a bad thing? how do i deal with men who are like that?Is it normal that some men don't like to talk about their feelings?
    Overall, yes.Is it normal that some men don't like to talk about their feelings?
    No man likes to talk about his feelings.
    Most men you'll come across are like this. They won't show their feelings because they feel its a sign of weakness. There really is no way to ';deal'; with it......you just have to tolerate it and be patient with him.
    I think it must be normal, c/ my hubby doesn't usually express his. It isn't necessarily bad, but it is a hindrance. I think a couple should express how they feel, so they can understand each other and grow together. Otherwise, you just stay the same and fall into a rut. That's when people contemplate 'straying' or all together leaving.
    Depending on the 'feeling,' most men feel if they show their feelings, or share them they might be seen as weak by their spouse/significant other. I had a much older lady friend (I was in my 40s %26amp; 50's, and she was in her late 70's-early 80's) whom I was very comfortable with and could talk to her about things I didn't feel comfortable talking to my wife about. I didn't have to put on this 'I'M STRONG' showing. I tend to get emotional about some things and I feel tears might be construed as weakness. My wife's family feels that way. It really all depends on a man's upbringing. Hugging is common among many of my friends, but some have never been hugged by their family, just for example.

    How do you Italian women deal with it?

    How do you deal with all the mama's boys in your country??





    Seriously... its a problem, and a large percentage of Italian men in your country are either still living at home through their 40's or they have a strong attachment to their mothers. They run to mama for protection, they listen to their mother over girlfriends/wives and mama ALWAYS comes first....





    I'm just wandering... how do you Italian women deal with men like this? Or do you deal with them at all? There is a large amount of mam's boys in your country... so do these men EVER end up married or do they still with mama till death do them part??How do you Italian women deal with it?
    Well, I'm Italian, a not typical one, and with my Italian husband live in Central America.


    Actually is true, almost any Italian man is ';mammone';, but we do not consider this as a real/big problem .... or better we almost do not perceive it at all, 'cause it's part of our cultur and tradition.


    Every woman in Italy is grown with this mind perspective and when will become herself a mother, will keep on transmitting it to her sons and daughters.


    In any case, it is not always so asphyxiating as it can seem from outside, and sensible adult italian men and women normally reach a steady compromise between how it has been teached them to live and their ideal lifestyle.


    This is more or less how do we deal with it!


    Hope I could made miself understood.


    ByeHow do you Italian women deal with it?
    some do and some don't, most families are very close...so it will be hard to part, for the most part they all live in the same town at least, they see each other everyday. most men don't want another lady around because they think their will be no one else that knows how to do/cook.clean like their mamma's.
    wow, where in the world did you get this idea? really. i'm intrigued.

    Why is it that women think nothing of excluding men, yet feel wronged when men exclude them?

    Women find it perfectly ok to alert men that they don't like to be bothered with men trying to start conversations with them in public. That they don't like the overall awkwardness of having men around when they are working out at the gym. That they don't want (what they deem unattractive) men asking them on dates at work. Etc.. etc.. . However, when men tell women the same things, suddenly men are doing something that is untactful, inconsiderate and out of line. When men don't want women around when we hang out, and we respond coldly when women try to interrupt- we're being inconsiderate and unreasonable for not allowing women to share the fun. When we like to have our own ';guys'; groups or cliques we're ' gender discriminating'. When a woman at work, at school or the club keeps trying to talk to us- if we were to give one word answers or simply walk away it'd be considered as us acting aloof and over the top.





    --%26gt;However, when women do all these things, not only is it accepted, but the onus is on men to deal with it and accommodate women's 'right' to act this way, and to be fair-weathered as to how they deal with men (in that women want to take all the good, without any of the bad, and men should pick up the slack). You don't want to have to tolerate us, but you complain when we don't tolerate you. ..? It's cool for you to hang out with us or entertain casual conversation with us *only* when you want. Yet we should offer women the opportunity to join us anytime women want to? .. Heh heh, I don't think so.Why is it that women think nothing of excluding men, yet feel wronged when men exclude them?
    Totally agree and don't understand it either, Just like Dell's quote about why women are so uptight in D.C. Cab.%26gt;_%26lt;Why is it that women think nothing of excluding men, yet feel wronged when men exclude them?
    back when i thought i wanted to be a feminist.....i noticed double standards like this too. i decided to go back to my old ways and treat women how i see fit, because they don't want to be equal, they want to be greater. maybe it is their way of having affirmative action. i
    Its very sad that many women have been brainwashed into thinking they are always the victim, even when they are being sexist.
    I completely agree with you on this one because I noticed and question the same thing.


    .
    A presumable side-effect of feminism, I have observed this as well.





    Some women undoubtedly feel that society should bend to alleviate their every discomfort from perceived sexism.
    How out of whack things are is a true testiment of the power of feminism (women's lib).





    The core empowerment of feminism has always been hatred of men. They say it's equality, how double standards means equality is only rationalized by women that buy into feminism.





    Men's organizations and interests were deemed bias, discrimination and anti-women. So how did we come to a place where there's more women's organizations than anyone can count? Countless Government programs for women, Job sites for women only, double-standards in the courts and justice system, etc.





    Everything that feminism was supposed to stand against appears to be, what feminism stands for.





    I'm sure most women would say, NO it's not like that.
    At the risk of sounding non-PC, it's the gheto mentality.- 'You exclude me, you're racist, sexist, etc..etc. I snub you, it's pay back for your kind discriminating against my kind.'
    I think the entire problem lies with us as men for buying into the line of BS of women being equal to men. Men and women are not equal-- being the same-- we are very different in the way we think. Is one mode of thinking better than the other-- quite possibly-- but we should treat women with respect and not demean them for being different, for being irrational and illogical, and for being controlled by their emotions.





    Now this does not mean that we should prostrate ourselves in front of women and give into every single one of their selfish desires, but we should put a limit to what we let them get away with. That means no more destruction of our society-- which previously worked very well-- no more of that PC crap, no more of giving into their feminist drivel, no more of letting them penalize men for being men, for being, only in certain ways, but definitely not all, far superior to women, i.e., men have a certain set of strengths that women cannot compete against, just as men can't compete with women in their areas of strength like child care, empathy, etc.





    Of course, I don't want women to feel they are being patronized or belittled, so I posit that women are better than men at other things, like dealing with people and multitasking, but unfortunately women seem to see the strengths of men as being something they should covet and try to acquire, and only do harm to society as a whole. We need to be strong men and tell these banshees that enough is enough and we won't tolerate their selfish and childish behavior any longer.
    Our society has double standards unfortunately.


    This has to stop.





    Either men only gyms %26amp; hospitals should be allowed or gender-specific 'things' such as hospitals and gyms should be disallowed. Until the day that I see feminists fight for getting rid of 'all' single gender 'things' out there, I will not believe they (feminists) are looking for equality only. In Canada, we even have a government branch called 'Status of Women Canada'
    Rudeness is never okay. I suppose the only thing I can say is that often men don't often want to join a group of women. It's different to when a man hits on you at the gym - you feel vulnerable. Polite chitchat is always acceptable. Over keen sexual interest isn't always welcome.


    Perhaps the answer is to be more sociably experienced, so that you can pick up and understand these finer points of relationships.


    If you want to be rude - that is up to you. There's no law against it.
    I don't think this is true and maybe you are a little biased because you are a guy. Most people are a little biased with these more *social* things. I wouldn't get offended if a guy said a lot of the things you mentioned, and if a guy rejected my approaching him at a club, I think I'm too nervous of a person to push it or speak of him like he's the bad person. But that's me personally. I don't think many girls feel or act the way you described, sorry. Some of my girl friends want to be around their boyfriend all the time and not want him to hang out alone with his buddies often, but not all of us.. that does not offend me.
    I have no idea what you're talking about-maybe you need to hang out with feminists instead of anti and non-feminists, or just hang out with mature adults, as I could care less if guys don't want women around and say so. As a matter of fact, I encourage my bf to go to all-male events and belong to all-male groups so he has his own friends. If you're a mature adult, you realize many people need bonding time with their own gender. It sounds like quite a few of you are around very immature ppl.
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    pleeeeaaasseeee DX
    you have a point, sir.





    but consider this a backlash for years of overt and completely one-sided discrimination.





    when a group of people have been wronged/oppressed in some way, they'll often swing in the completely opposite direction to accommodate for their feelings of oppression. this isn't balanced nor is it the best for all parties involved, but that's just the way it is. only time will heal it.





    it will take a new generation of women with no memories of overt social inequality (thanks to the efforts of their over-compensating mothers, natch) to set things straight.

    Things I need to know about men,,,?

    The more we knw abt men..the more we understand them ..and learn how to love them....I guess, the better the partnerships/relationships...





    Im not saying, it's difficult to deal with men..i just have to know..so i can love them better.....Things I need to know about men,,,?
    So what is your question????Things I need to know about men,,,?
    Mine just interrupted my conversation with my daughter to tell me he is going to work. That makes them rude.
    my mother owned hair salons so growing up I found out how much women really know about men - there is so much information in the womens magazines and what is in the mens pales in comparison - well there is no comparison - read all those magazines get them for free from the library and you will know all you need to know and more
    Most, but NOT ALL men, like plenty of physical affection, just as females like to be told how much their loved etc. If he does something you don't approve of, talk to them about it. If they blow a gasket, then there probably not the best guy to be in a relationship with.
    I think, for me, men can't be trusted,


    SOME of them are not contented ti have only one girl in their whole life
    I';ve been with mine for six years. Boo beleive me you neva understand them jus like they neva understand you. Just take your relationship one day at a time. Thats wht we do.
    All I can tell you is, you don't really know a man until you raise his son. I have 2 boys and I wish I had realized that guys aren't really so different from us, they just express it differently. I can also tell you that if you believe men are not sensitive or emotional, you are wrong! Guys are very tender hearted, just about different things and raely will show it to you.
    That sounds really good in theory, but in fact it doesn't work that easily. While some things do apply to all men, they are individuals and therefore need to be viewed as such, as well as treated as such.
    Most men are idiots....what i would want you to know is i like a women who knows how to show affection, but also know there are times we want to hang out with the guys once in a while and sometimes we just don't want to talk about anything. The worst thing a woman can ask a man is ';what are you thinking'; and I sometimes think to myself ';if i wanted you to know, i'd be talking';
    say hi get a bf who is a guy learn about them
    The more you know the more you need to know. Give up now.


    Accept them the way they are and just love them anyway!!

    How do you deal with creepy men?

    where i live there's all these creepy men who stare at me and say things to me..what should i do when they do this?How do you deal with creepy men?
    ugh...i can identify... def avoid them, don't speak to or respond to them, but you don't know who you are dealing with so don't get too nasty (easier said than done)... just be careful and as unfair as it is, don't be alone too often in that area.How do you deal with creepy men?
    I dunno, but I have the same problem....
    dont make eye contact and avoid them
    Dude, that sucks. Ignore them, but if they touch you either kick some @ss, or call the cops.
    roll your eyes, dont make eye contact, move away from them, take out your cell phone and pretned to be txting .
    Just ignore them because they want to see what your response to them is. If you feel uncomfortable by their presents or feel threatened then report it to the Police, because you don't know what their capable of doing. There's a lot of sick people out there. Be careful.
    pepper spray my dear, pepper spray

    How many married relationships practices Natural family planning?

    We have been using NFP for about a year. I really want to know how the men deal with the times they can't make love to their wife.How many married relationships practices Natural family planning?
    We did that for a while, then we decided to have another child, then found out she was already pregnant! LOL





    Anyways, we would go down on each other during the times we couldn't have sex. You can do sexual things without penetration We always kept a few condoms on hand for emergencies.How many married relationships practices Natural family planning?
    ask my husband
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    Hey guys. I work at a place where I have to provide great customer service.As a result I get hit on alot by many men. But I am happily in a relationship and if I behave shy in front of a man he automatically thinks that I am stuck up. How I can deal with men and be nice to them without giving them the impression that I want them to hit on me? How can I get them to stop hitting on me? Even when with my boyfriend, I have men who try to hit on me and it is rather annoying, especially because my boyfriend is very jealous and will pick a fight with everyone. I mean I dont dress like a slut or anything like that. I am a regular person. What should I do?Aquestion for men?
    be a confident and cold women. most men don't like confident women. men like to control and to have power. that's why by being confident and cold, men cant control and show them their power to you...thus they'll run away...


    and being confident will do no harm to your profesionalism...


    hope this advice can help youAquestion for men?
    tell him not to come between your career
    You just act cool if you are being hitted by men. Hey, you same as me! I'm being hitted by my classmates too! So, you just act cool! I always do that.
    You need to quit working at the strip club. I would like to know


    what kind of job you really have. Your b/f should be happy that


    he has a woman that other men wants.
    don't be nice be professional and you will stop get hit from men
    wear a big wedding ring

    Another question for the men of the world...?

    Ok, in case you don't know I am compiling information on how men think. A little research if you will. This question is one I have wondered about for a while. What is it about lesbians that make a guy lose their mind? I mean I, like many other women, have no interest in watching a couple of guys go at it. Why is it such a big deal to men? (Behave with your answers, please)Another question for the men of the world...?
    men are more attracted to physical aspects. The more the merrier!Another question for the men of the world...?
    you look sick !?
    Its all about fantasies.
    they look cute





    like 2 kitties
    fantasy thing
    big boobs and ***
    Its the fact that they see something that they trully like and want all of the time and to see two of them together is a double turn on
    i think its the fact we are programed to feel an attraction to the oppiste sex and something about two women who are toghere is like magical its something you see in there eyes like something we couldnt understrnad how there eyes and hands are telling each other things without evenin talking like they kno girl language
    well.....there is 2 of them...2 is more than 1
    its nice and looks sexy, but of course the chicks have to be thin and pretty. cant be dyke looking yuc
    i dont go off with lesoes but i must tell you u look absolutely stunning yuo look like a princess
    because we don't wont to watch a man and a women
    we dont ';lose our mind,'; we may act like it but its just awesome for us to see 2 super hot girls going at it. its not all lesbians AT ALL because u and i both know that they arent all exactly the greatest looking girls. we have more creative imaginations too :-p
    Really never got that myself. Does nothing for me. I think it might be a myth.
    because women r just sexy that way, i think majority of people would rather see 2 women than two hairy *** men!!!
    i don't like lez


    i don't like bi girls


    i dont' liek sluts





    i kick them to the curb. these dirty girls don't deserve my time.
    Women are beautiful, erotic, sexy, etc. so 2 or more raises the excitement exponentially. Men are inherently gross so more than one raises the grossness exponentially.
    Honestly, it doesn't turn me on in the least. I'm as straight as an arrow. I could never understand what my fellow brothers out there see in it, but there are men out there like me as well. I'm turned on by a woman alone but not with another woman....to me it's unnatural for anything but a man and a woman......but to each his own.
    its just something hott about a woman going down on a woman, b/c they have the products needed for both giving and recieving, so they know how to do it better then we do. So by watching, we (Men) can get better at giving women pleasure!
    because that is how guys think
    So like, are you a lesbian?
    men are visual, and most of us enjoy female 'company' so to watch not 1 naked woman but 2, is quite a treat. then there is the act of female on female love making, in which 2 or more are naked. basically it's a thrill to witness. (even if it is just a fantasy most of the time) ;)
    we as men love women. the female body is a very beautiful thing. some could be works of art. so if 1 girl turns me on then 2 are going to be like double time. plus theres that whole want what you can't have thing that makes them so interesting.
    It's possibly more of a fantasy for men, than anything. Imagine a women who's bi, will a man's been dating for several months, they go out dancing at a night club, another hot blonde girl comes over and they start dancing, just like in the movie dirty dancing. Then your gf ask you if this girl can come home with you both and you can do both of them at the same time. (That's the fantasy). Most men would love this to happen to them at least once a month!





    If a guy says no, then he's queer or brain washed by so called bible thumpers who have no clue what it says in the bible anyway.





    Men don't want a lesbian girl friend, but a bi girl once in a while would be ok, but only if the guy gets a piece of both girls.
    well, i don't know about the other guys around here, but my personal theory is that i just happen to be a lesbian trapped in a man's body. that is my best guess. women making out, 2nd and 3rd base are nice. i don't know why, maybe b/c two guys is pretty sick.
    It's a sexual turn on for most men i think....... it is for me myself if that's what your asking. guy's don't have a V that's what makes it interesting 2 me especially.
    The men that lose their minds over lesbians have not seen any real lesbians in action. Most lesbians are not supermodels with huge breasts.





    Honestly your question is flawed. There are plenty of men that do not believe two women is attractive. Look at the media and world in which we live in. It's obvious that even if many men were not interested in two women, it's ';gay'; to admit they don't find it attractive.





    Also, do some research into Chinese and Japanese culture. There is an entire genre of comics and animation featuring ';cute'; gay men. This genre is not aimed at gay men, but directed at teenage girls.
    I think it stems from something on the line of ';it's something that guys can't have.'; I for one am not interested in seeing two lesbians go at it. The ones that I see and have dealt with in the past I could not imagine even being scantily clad let alone naked. I think it's just from the porno industry having a lack of guys for some reason and just say... ';well why don't you two girls go at it for a while.'; So there you have two attractive women going to town doing there thing and it is recorded for posterity. Then circulated to porn shops and Internet sites across the country putting the idea in men's heads that all lesbians are like a Pamela Anderson type instead of a Kathy Bates... (no offense to those two women btw.) I think that is where you get the ';losing their mind part.';


    Personally I used to applaud every time someone even said the word lesbian... but high school was 15+ years ago.
    I don't know that they make us lose our minds. I think it is just that we have no interest in seeing a guy, so if it is 2 lesbians we don't have to worry about seeing some gross hairy old axx showing up on our screen. Another explanation might be that men are naturally competitive where other males are concerned. Watching a man and a woman becomes more about comparing and competition than about enjoying. Just remember for a lot of us men, if we like something, more is seen as better. Like cars? Bigger engine, bigger tires, more chrome = BETTER! Like women? Two women = BETTER!


    OK, so that's my answers. I never really thought about it before, but I think some of those reasons are at the root of our behavior.
    It doesn't turn me on in the least, nor for that matter do I care to watch hetero action. It isn't that I am sick or a prude. It's like sports. I love to participate in all kinds of sports, but I really don't care to just watch. In both cases, sports and sexual spectating, someone ELSE is having a lot of fun, and it AIN'T me!


    It just doesn't make sense to me.
    First of all women have always been farther ahead than men in doing their homework on the affairs of the heart. For heterosexual males, it is the ardent, raw, but soft visuals of women making love that turns them on. Men are in no way threatened by it and thus it is a form of human sexuality where they won't be judged and they will be safe. Issues of vulnerability, expressing love, displaying feelings, performance anxiety are men concerns to be sure. They don't have to address these issues watching lesbians make love.





    I have never meet a guy who would lose his mind over this. I have also never met a guy who would turn down the opportunity of joining in. I think that how we are socialized has a lot to do with it. American society is really hung up about sex and as far as homosexuality is concerned we are still in the dark ages.

    Should I ask for their tollies to be chopped off?

    My fiance told me a story he heard some few days ago... I could hear just with the tone of his voice how badly the idea of such a situation having occured, had affected him.





    A couple were arrested for drunken driving (the girl being a passenger). The girl was locked up in a cell with (dare I even say the number) x number of men who gang raped her...





    The officers who put her there were pardoned and warned. They still have their jobs and were told that they'd be let loose if this occured ';again';...





    Their excuse? It was dark and they didnt see where they'd put the girl. I was disgusted beyond disgust! All I kept thinking was, I should have a petition started and going out to have these men dealt with. The rapists to have their tollies chopped off and for the police officers to be jailed and spend time with the men they've arrested.





    What do you think?Should I ask for their tollies to be chopped off?
    sounds good to me!Should I ask for their tollies to be chopped off?
    You have my vote.
    This is quite an old incident - it happened last year (I think... I stand to be corrected.).


    Nothing's going to happen to those cops. They'll all cover up for each other, and it'll go round and round in circles til everybody simply forgets about it............ except the girl and her family.


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    EDIT: I'm scared sh!tless of cops!! I was arrested for an outstanding fine once. Do you know how arrogant and unhelpful they are?! It was a very scary experience.


    And in another incident, I was pulled over at 3am for going through a red robot (I stopped, looked, and went). It was a cop car FULL of scruffy criminal-looking men. I tried to keep driving onto the nearest police station (as is my right), but the cop forced me off the road. I realised after the fact that he was trying to solicit a bribe out of me. Luckily it was 3am and I was too tired to cotton on.


    But ja, cops these days - I don't know anybody who still trusts the police!
    I'm with you 100%. I can't believe it. It's disgusting and they are enjoying every moment of it. Anyway, I will not pull over. I will drive over that bloody officer if I have to cause I don't trust them anymore.
    It was ';dark and they couldn't see where (they) put'; her??? Are you kidding me???? No lights at this jail? Was this the jailers first night working there and they didn't know where the cells were????


    If this is true...this is atrocious! I agree...these people need to be held accountable...
    A fitting punishment for all rapists would be to remove their testicles and inject them with oestrogen once a week for 2 years.
    I'm with you on this one.
    dont get me started!





    these policemen should lose their jobs, as well as be jailed for reckless endangerment, gross negligence in the line of duty, accomplaces after the fact to rape, as well as many more offences i cant think of at the moment!





    that girl can sue the kak out of the police!





    her settlement would be HUGE!
    What a disgusting story!!!! I think their tollies should be grated!!!!!
    its bad and sad.





    CHOP THEM OFF WITH A BLUNT KNIFE AND WITH NO PAIN KILLERS
    Omigosh Angelpaws, that sounds really scary. Now we have to be scared of cops too. Even though I agree with poepies that they should be grated (lol) and fired, The truth is that they will only be replaced by more corrupt cops. The whole SAP system reaks of corruption and incompetence starting from the top guy himself, police commissioner.





    These stories are very disturbing.
    The SAPS is yet to impress me with anything they do. I am waiting to be surprised by some basic level of competency.
    Hello Everyone, this is South Africa - have you guys forgotten already.





    This is the best country in the world for criminals. You can murder someone and sit in the jail for the weekend and be out Monday morning and not pay your TV License and sit in jail for two years.





    This is South Africa.





    Any illegal immigrant can come into the country and get citizenship (a proper passport) for about R50.00.





    I once read an article in a newspaper (The Citizen) where a 90 year old lady was raped. Which person in their right mind does things like this.





    This is South Africa.





    Should I say more - no actually I'm disgusted.
    First things first - you shouldn't forget that you are carrying my prospective future president. So don't teach him violence. Chopping tollies is violence!





    Believe me; I don't call the police for anything. Even if I could call them when people attack in my house, I wouldn鈥檛. They'll shoot me and claim that they mistaken me for a criminal. I have no faith whatsoever in the SAPS. Like dWali said above, I'm still waiting to be impressed by the SAPS - but I don't want to be their guinea pig
    Well you know my view on rapists - the should all be castrated and in this case I think every policeman on duty at that time in that place should be castrated also.





    They knew full well what they were doing - ignorance should not be an acceptable excuse.
    Thats f***ked up! These criminals should be fired. That gangster Jackie Selebi should also be fired. I agree with the General, the lady should sue the cops.





    If you want my signature, you got it.





    (((Maybe she should hire some hitmen and pop the idiots.)))
    How can the police put a woman in a cell with men? That is really wrong!! i hope this girl sues the police department!! I put my signature on that petition!! you have my vote!!
    Sounds like an excellent idea to me. Where did this happen at? Well wherever, that's ludacris, and a poor excuse. Wonder how much the prisoners paid those cops to get it in they're cell for them? Sounds like an inside conspiracy between the officers and the men inside the cell, don't ya think maybe? People piss me off, especially ones like that. Your idea sounds excellent.
    Chop it off, stick it in a bun and feed it to the animals!
    babes, you have my full support...!





    something needs to happen now guys?
    You have my vote !!!


    They should be chopped of and fed to them !!!!
    I say cut them off.


    THEN: Boil them, mash them and stick them in a stew and make the previous owners eat them.





    I hate rapists.

    Do you experience a downside in being beautiful, how do you deal with it?

    What do you experience, and how do you deal with it? I have to deal with people (men and women) staring at me all the time its annoying. Girls get jealous and bitchy. People think I have it all cos im pretty when i dont.Do you experience a downside in being beautiful, how do you deal with it?
    people rarely get bitchy wothout a reason, being pretty doesn't count as a reason. maybe you give them another reason. i have a girlfriend that is simply gorgeous, everybody likes her, and the ones that don't, have different reasons than jealousy.Do you experience a downside in being beautiful, how do you deal with it?
    I don't like you.

    Partner and miscarriage where can I find help?

    I was wondering where I can find help for a man dealing with a miscarriage. I was suprised at his reaction as none of us knew I was pregnant until I lost it after getting abdominal pains only a couple of weeks. But his beliefs are different to mine, he's really upset and I don't know how to help because I'm terrified I won't have children and I'm on edge myself. Are there any helplines specifically for men?





    Wasn't sure of the category to put it inPartner and miscarriage where can I find help?
    Im very sorry for your loss. See if you can get him in to mental health somewhere and yougo too. This is very hard to deal with. If not ,talk talk talk talk talk. I mean it, it helps!!!


    I know this sound weird but you can get a tree to plant outside and name your baby and tie the name on the tree. That helps with loss.





    Don't worry you will have children. I had 4 miscarriages and had to take meds with both my kids to get them to full term.





    I hope all this helps, and again so sorry for your loss.








    -melPartner and miscarriage where can I find help?
    No he is not a bad man and I cannot understand why some one would say that. Good luck and your welcome. If you need any more info please email me.








    -mel

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    First of all, I'm sorry for both of you! I think if you went to a doctor, or hospital, there would be some kind of support group for both of you. It's actually a bereavement group that he could use, because he is suffering from a loss.
    Have him talk to his pastor, priest or cleryman. They have a lot of training in these areas, they are very accessable, understanding and probably free.
    The common answer that you will probably get is ';Man up!';.





    The truth of the matter is that there are support groups for this kind of thing- depending on the city in which you live. Call your OBGYN and ask, they'll direct you in the proper way.





    As far as what you can do is nothing. 1. Because YOU have gone through a traumatic experience too. 2. Talking to him about his fears and concerns only allows him to take zero accountability in the relationship. He needs to be there for YOU. He can sort himself out on his own, share his feelings with you when he is ready, but to think that YOU would have to do anything is crazy. He is lucky to have someone as caring as you.





    Get yourself together, heal emotionally as well as physically and then move on together. Don't worry about the future, make sure to grow from this experience. Its a tough thing you have had to deal with, and together you will make it through. What is meant to be will be, and I wish you the best for your future, but do NOT for one second allow for a selfish man (we're all selfish you know) to wallow in his own crap at the risk of his not being present for YOU. Daddies are important, Mommies are irreplaceable.
    I don't know of support groups specifically for men, but you might try The Compassionate Friends, an international support group for families who have lost children at any age from any cause, with US headquarters in Illinois and local chapters throughout the US. They do have an on-line chat room just for men. They also have a number of resources and other sites for a variety of help.





    Your partner's reaction is unusual in that men don't often accept a fetus as a ';real'; child because they can't feel its presence like you can. It's heartening that he is so upset. Prayers and kind thoughts for both of you. God bless.





    And this was the perfect category.
    Maybe he could try something such as the caring pregnancy centers around, they should be able to talk to him and help out. Sorry for your loss. I've been there also.

    How to deal with this so unPRETICABLE scorpio men?

    i'm a cancer, how to deal with this men i love so much together for 2 yr and still he is so unbelieveably unpreticable?


    we broke up 2 month ago and i have totally no trust on this man although i knew i still love him so much, but somehow , i have no idea how to let it go?


    he started calling me lately and want me back.why when opinions clash,and still, i'm the first to instigate an argument and he the last to finish it.


    It's feel like i'm the one act as the dominant partner and manage to get things on my ways, but that isn't always the truth. Sometimes he won't even agree to disagree, he just might pretend to give in.


    i cant event express how much i love him sometimes?! or else he will eventually taking control ?


    do you play it off like you're NOT jealous? Or is it too difficult too hide?


    how to do the ultimatum thing and cut off all contant until he learns to see things your way that you weren't given much to BE in a relationship with him.???How to deal with this so unPRETICABLE scorpio men?
    Okay, I'm not sure I entirely understand the question. Are you saying that you love him but you guys disagree and argue a lot? And he's unpredictable?





    I can kind of relate, I argue with this guy I like all the time (he's a scorpio too! :P)...we get in fights over the smallest things, and like your guy, my guy often pretends to agree with me, just to make me stop being angry. My advice for that would be try not to let the little differences in opinions come between you two (I'm definitly guilty of doing that with guys). Tell him that you don't want to disagree on every little thing, but when you do disagree, tell him that sometimes it is better to just ';agree to disagree';, rather than have him pretend to agree with you. Neither of you should have to entirely give into the other in a disagreement; instead try to come to a happy medium.





    As for the unpredictability...get used to it, that's the only advice I can give. My scorpio guy is totally unpredictable, I've come to accept it...although I must agree the unpredictability can get incredibly annoying.
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  • Calling all men.. What do breasts mean to you?

    Back in High School...a bunch of friends and I played strip spin the bottle..some girls ended up nude..I just ended up topless but...now I'm married and my husband and I have a mutual friend that played that game with us like 8 years ago...





    We were at a gathering and betweeen us he just kind of reminded me like, ';don't you remember I saw your breasts?'; and I'm like,';So what!'; ';their just breasts big deal!'; he like has a girlfriend and everything..so its not like he doesn't see breasts consistently...but my question is...Are breasts that big of a deal for men? If so, why? Is there somekind of I don't know...?? how can I word this? Do they feel it means something if you let them see them..? We were kids when this happened but common now..It didn't mean anything to me..we were just being young and stupid.. my breasts arent even that big I'm like 5ft...110 lbs 32B..??Calling all men.. What do breasts mean to you?
    I suspect that we males are biologically programmed to be ';stimulated'; by the sight of breasts, legs, butts, belly buttons, that soft curve of the inner thigh, necks, ear lobes, lips, and...you get the idea.





    I remember in vivid detail every part of every woman's body that I've ever been intimate with. I think the sight causes adrenaline and other hormones to be pumped into our bloodstream and we're ready to go!





    Just trying to perpetuate the species, I think. Don't take it personally; try to enjoy the attention. Afterall. this civilization crap has pretty well taught us to control our urges, so you're relatively safe!





    Good Luck!





    Glad I could help!





    ;O)Calling all men.. What do breasts mean to you?
    errm anyone could tell you that we love breasts..because we love what women have! dont you expect the opposite sex to turn you on?

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    He sounds very immature.They do get mens hormones racing just by site but it really shouldnt meen anything special to him he sounds a little perverted
    first dont judge me for passing on information or my opinion. Someone might not like my answer, someone else will.





    Yes they are for most men! Breasts can mean a lot. They might have been the first pair he's ever seen up close. It might have been a memorable time in his life. Some guys like a B cup too..too big can be bad, but just right. ANYWAY, that guy should probably be more polite. Yet its probably the most action he got in high school, so you played a important role to him I guess.





    not to sound vulgar, but what we dont have..we think about and want to touch. if you got playful round bouncy things with knobs and we dont, do you think we would like to see how they feel? same goes for the power steering stick ladies.





    Breasts also tend to stick out the most, unless its your other asset. They're part of the feminine shape too, but most guys should be staring at your eyes and not your nipples.
    We tend to like more voluptuous (spelling?) women. I don't know why, we're just programmed that way. As for me, they don't mean much to me. I'm still single, and not getting any younger, so I can't be picky as far as that goes.
    baby, breasts to a man just remind him of his mother, but they are told they are something more. to us, they aren't anything special until you know how to use them properly.
    its the reason 4 living sweetie!
    drives us crazy
    Hey forget about that and do not take him serious.
    Breasts are fuel for the sexual fire.


    Luv em!!
    There is nothing more finer in life than a woman's breast in a mans face.
    men like breasts. women dont need to know why, they just need to know that we do. there is no psyco bable that will make sence of it. men are simple and we like boobs.
    Plain and simply put....fun bags. Us guys can amuse ourselves in so many ways with those luscious glandular bags of joy. For instance, when we come into life they sustain us by giving us nourishment and that starts the ball rolling. As we mature they become fun bags. They are Very nice to look at because they are for the most part more out there for us to see unlike the spot we really crave to see and dwell in. They are pillows when we need to rest our weary heads or don't have a pillow around and they are of great comfort to us because when we are scared we can cuddle them and or hide our heads in them.


    Hope this gives you some insight to us men and on final note I say ';Free those puppies from bondage';.

    How do you Christians out there deal with lust? For Men and Women?

    How can I stop being so lustful in my life, stop masturbating, watching porn. What resources or tips would you recommend to get lust out of my life? ThanksHow do you Christians out there deal with lust? For Men and Women?
    Lust will never be completely out of your life. It is just how you choose to respond to it that will be different. You have obviously made choices making lust a big part of your life. It will require hard work on your part to break those cycles but you can do it with a willing heart and spirit!





    So how can you stop? For starters, you have to make the choice not to rent or buy porn and get rid of any you may already have. Delete any website links that you have stored that enables you to just click on in an instant. You're more likely to stop yourself from doing it if you have to search. You can buy software that blocks certain pop ups and websites. Also, if you truly want accountability, find an accountability partner. It has to be someone you can open up to and be honest with. This person also has to have a respect for your decision to not let lust control you and be willing to hold you accountable. That person should not be your wife or girlfriend.


    There is a book called Every Man's Battle that is well written. The authors are Stephen Arterburn and Fred Stoeker. I highly recommend it. If these types of things do not help, you may need to seek a Christian counselor and maybe even get rid of your computer.





    Finally, pray, pray and pray some more. If the thoughts that tempt you start to creep in your mind, refocus. This is easier said than done but it starts with doing it once, then choosing to do it again, and again and before you know it your norm is choosing to refocus. If the temptation presents itself physically, walk away. Again ,hard to do but practice can make perfect.





    And digging deeper, think about why you do it in the first place. I mean yes, the obvious, it provides a moment of pleasure and instant gratification that last seconds but after, what about after? There is obviously no lasting fulfillment in it. Usually it is not just sexual anyway, there is a bigger need to be fulfilled and you need to figure out what that is.








    This is a battle my friend but one you can win if you are willing! Although hard at first, it becomes easier over time as day by day you create new standards and higher expectations for yourself. Don't beat yourself up if you fall down, just get back up and start over. Making daily choices to better yourself will win out in the end!How do you Christians out there deal with lust? For Men and Women?
    resist and he will flee
    I'm a Muslim.





    I deal with it by following the order in the Qur'an to lower my gaze.
    If you enjoy it keep on doin it!
    Pray
    Get married and share it with your wife.
    Keep busy or get married. Sex is only off limits for the unmarried. Get married and go for it! You have God's blessing on that one.
    Why restrict something natural?
    keep your mind occupied with healthy stuff. start respecting women then you will not look at them lustfully.
    easy pray and find Christ in your heart...all that will cease guaranteed...go talk to a local Pastor at a church near ya.
    be lustful, god isnt real nore jesus, sin away, but if ur afraid that if he is real and ur sins will be counted, hes god...he forgives all.
    Figure out what void it is that porn is filling...without discovering the underlying problem (need for intimacy, for example), you cannot stop the symptom.





    I would recommend professional counseling. Sometimes it takes a stranger to see the big picture and help you figure out WHY it is that you are watching porn.





    Masturbation itself is not necessarily bad. All things in moderation...





    But don't feel guilty for feelings of sexual desire. That's why we have hormones...to seek out a mate...then mate with them. Sexual desire is not a sin.
    Go find a prostitute or a nice young little whore... yeah, that'll get it out of your system.
    i have suffered from the same thing well to be truthfull you cant do it be your self you do need helo try just praying asking for god to help you and im sure that will work but it is a working progress you have to ease your self off of it when you feel like doing the thing that you like to do just occupie your self and you will find that you will forget about it..
    I deal with it through praying to God for help and strength and guidance. And with the gift of His forgiveness.
    I am the same way...whats worse is that I have been married for 2 years now. What helps me most is purposefully praying about it every morning and then everytime that I'm feeling like lusting or looking at porn. Also, you may want to pick up the book ';Every Man's Battle';. I forgot the author's name but its a pretty well known book. It helped me understand a lot about myself. Hope that helps though. I'll pray for you.
    it is a struggle.... but i pray and hold on to the knowledge that God loves end forgives me!
    Prayer. Get rid of all the access you have to lust. Get a friend to come in and set up parental controls on your PC and not let you have the password. If your TV or cable or satellite service has these same controls, get that friend to set those up for you, too. But most of all, attend church, get with a group, talk to someone. If you work at a large company, they likely have an Employee Assistance Program and that is free to you. It is also confidential, and you can see a counselor at the company's expense to get help. Pray pray pray. You cannot do this without God's help, I don't care if you are a Christian or not, you have GOT to get inner strength from somewhere, and unlike physical strength, you cannot lift weights or anything to get it. It comes from God alone. Don't spend too much time alone, and if you do go spend time with others, don't let it be the wrong kind of folks. Keep away from dirty minded folks or those that participate in adultery or fornication. You need support from others who are trying to avoid this kind of behavior, too. Best of luck to you.
    (Colossians 33:5) Deaden, therefore, YOUR body members that are upon the earth as respects fornication, uncleanness, sexual appetite, hurtful desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.
    Is my recommendation you deals with lust by getting more r%26amp;s points. 47, oooh, no good, Nyet?
    The best way is to focus on what is right and spend time fasting and praying along with Bible reading. You may have to curb your normal life for a while until you get a handle on it. But just like anything in life it takes effort and commitment. If you do these things you'll see things start to change.
    I don't know but they are missing out on the good stuff.
    For me personally I haven't dealt with it very well. I masturbate like a rabid horny monkey. As far as the stop viewing porn that is something I have been somewhat successful at. If I feel I might look at porn before I get on the net I masturbate before I get on. Also there is a sight called


    http://www.settingcaptivesfree.com/home/


    its free and private I do not advise confessing your porn activity EVER. Just do what you have to do to stop it.





    It's my honest answer. It is not easy but if you are determined enough you can do it. Be honest with God. Good luck.
    Don't ever be alone with your computer. Put it in a public place and always have the doors open. Destroy any hard copies or media of pornography while you are sane enough to do so. Don't ever get bored. I find that keeping myself busy will take my mind off of masturbation. Replace the time you usually do nothing but veg out with bible study or prayer, or even scientific research, like I do. This will keep your mind busy. Also, abstain from any movies or television shows that have a significant amount of sexual content. These are good methods to get this out of your life.





    The main thing is KEEP BUSY:


    find a hobby for ';Idle hands are the devil's workshop';
    Christ is the end of the law(lust);


    So Christ-ians do not have lust.


    http://www.godshew.org/Law.htm





    what you're experiencing is concuspicence,


    and the root be-CAUSE of it is another law.


    http://www.godshew.org/Concupiscence.htm


    http://www.godshew.org/AnotherLaw.htm





    Flush law as dung and lust goes with it.


    Benefit: no more tormenting guilt trips.





    The GRACE of our Lord JC with you all. Amen.
    ';...taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ'; (2 Cor 10:5, NASB)





    Idleness is really the mother of habitual sin. Keep yourself busy. Some suggestions:





    1) Replace the desire with one that is more rewarding - studying scripture and meditating on God.


    2) Replace the habit with one that is more helpful - service, teaching, video games, Christian movies - whatever.


    3) Find a hobby.





    And recognize it takes time (many months), and that it is impossible to go ';cold turkey';, but Jesus promises that he will keep working hard on us until he comes back to make us perfect. (Philippians 1:6)





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    If you're a christian than it already has been dealt with if you confess your sins to jesus .. You should ask people to pray for you that will help ... read ........ 1 john 1:5... then read the commentary





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    Rightly divide the word of truth. (2 Tim. 2:15)


    Put another way; Satan has wrongly divided it (via deceit of men). Challenge;Test (T(accept) or F(reject)). Old testament = Genesis-Malachi.


    (My answer presently reject).
    Contrary to what most people will tell you, Masturbation is a sin, it stems from lust, just like watching porn does, it seeks to satisfy oneself, whereas being intimate the way God made it to be in marriage is in love, you don't seek to satisfy yourself, you seek to express your love to the other person. I was watching a Christian Pastor - Joel Osteen and he was talking about someone who wanted to get rid of something in his life and he said this person had a plan, I think this person's problem was drugs, but anyway, there were three things he did, I don't remember the second one but the first one was to get rid of all the friends that were doing drugs with him and giving him drugs, in your case it would be to get rid of friends who encourage or condone these things and with whom you feel you could fall into this again, get rid of any x rated magazines, if it's through the internet, don't come on often and the times you do make sure someone is in the room with you, so you will not do it, the third thing he did was confess his problem to a trusted friend, someone he would be accountable to and every morning this friend would call him and they would pray together to get rid of his drug problem, so he also had a support system and if ever he slipped he would tell this person, so in your case, see if you can find a trusted family member or friend who will help you and finally and most importantly keep God always in your mind, know that God is watching you, everything you do in secret God sees, In Ecclesiastes in the Bible, it says: ';The eyes of the Lord are 10,000 times brighter than the sun and they observe every action mortals take.'; Keep the suffering of Jesus on the cross for your sins constantly in your mind and in that moment you feel tempted, pray to God and ask for a deeper relationship with him because nothing physical can satisfy you, you will only feel empty and guilty afterwards, only God can satisfy the human heart and what you're feeing is really the need to be fulfilled, but you're looking at the wrong things to fill that void, only God can fill the void in your heart and so every time you feel lust trying to fill your heart, seek the love of God instead, open the Bible and ask God to speak to your heart and tell him Lord, help me I do not want to fall into this sin again and I pray for a revelation of your Love, also pray to the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of Love to drive out the Spirit of Lust which is from Satan. That's another thing, keep in mind that this battle you're in is against Satan, know that he lies behind Lust, Masturbation and pornography - behind every one of these there's the the degradation of the human body, mind and soul. Keep your mind focused on God in everything you do, say, think and feel, because an idle mind is the devil's playground.





    Good Luck %26amp; God Bless and I will pray for you