Sure. Temptation is always present, and I've certainly walked away from it on several occasions. Once, way back when we were pretty newly married, and I was in Saudi Arabia for seven miserable months, and then in Kuwait for three horrible days, I did not walk away from temptation. I cheated on my wife, and I felt horrible afterwards, and I confessed as soon as I was able to face to face. We're still married, still very much in love, 18 years later.
That being said, I think the temptation is not just sex. It also has to do with novelty, and a sense of being desired. I'm not criticizing, at all, but often, married men don't feel desired or admired by their wives. I think the same is often true in wives who stray. It's the desire to feel wanted that leads many to cheat. Not just to have sex, but to feel like you're wanted.
Finally, I would note that monogamy is difficult for nearly all men. I suspect that we are hardwired to spread our seed as far as possible. Behavioral adaptations have dictated the need for monogamy, but that innate instict is still there, and we deal with it with varying degrees of success, and with a variety of techniques. Some men look at porn, some fantasize, some do really stupid and dangerous things like cheat. It's all driven by the same ancient instinct, it just depends on how we handle that instinctive need.
If I sound like a chauvenist, I'm sorry. I don't mean to be. I can't speak for what drives women, nor, obviously, can I speak to all men.How many of you married men will stop befor you got through with cheating on your wife completly?
I want to know the same thing, mine left me and our family for it...it's so sad
Every farmer rotates their crops
stoping to think about ur family is only in the movies... sorry to say.
When you have a horny girl in front of you grabbing at your pants... then it's really hard to stop... not thinking of the family.. get it?/ thinking, how far is she gonna let me go.
i know it sucks.. but it works both ways... wives are just as bad..
not only men cheat women do it too. our minds and bodies are complicated and there are many reasons for cheating. some people don't even believe in monogamy and justify it in that way, and others just have issues with self-control. every relationship is different and you have to be totally honest with the man you are with and get to understand his way of thinking. does he believe in monogamy? is he satisfied sexually? does he think he can be with only one woman for the rest of his life? have an honest and open convesation with him about all these issues before something like this happens to one of you, because it happens a lot and you want to prevent it by knowing him very well. tell him you won't get upset if he is totaly honest with you even if he says something you don't like to hear.
The best thing to do is to not put one's self in that sort of situation. I wouldn't even put myself at an opportunity to take of some other girl's panties.
I wouldn't have to stop because I wouldn't be there in the first place.
I wouldn't put myself in to a situation where it could escalate to something that would hurt my wife and or kids. Man or woman, they have to know their limits. I don't care who it is but there's always that time when it first starts happening that the same thing runs through every ones mind, ';This probably isn't the best idea.';
Only spouses who really love their partner will cut it all off just as quick as it started.
Kudos to Davion23 and The Dreamer! Nice to see 'real men' still exist!
REFRESHING!
I wouldn't have to stop something that would never start in the first place.
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