Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?

How do you get over it? Do you think that when you break up with someone you love that you will eventually get back together? Also if you really love this person would it be hard to get into another relationship? By the way this was a 4 year relationship.


Just curious how men deal with all this compared to women. I am going through a tough time right now.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
Its different for all men. For most men separating isnt the final event like it seems to be for women. It's not until the woman finds someone else that possibility or reunion is closed down for men and thats when the greiving process begins for a man. Its a case of coming to terms with the fact that the familar comfort zone is no longer an option.


Some men can lose the plot at this point and become problematic.


I've just ended a four year relationship and while I would like to get some answers, the whole truth, the bottom line is that I may not like the truth or still wouldnt et the truth or wouldnt believe it if I got it so it makes no difference and its better to uphold my self respect by not letting her know she still has an emotional hold on me.





For men its difficult to come to terms with the fact that women can move on so quickly. Feels like you werent important the way women can put it behind them in seemingly no time at all. For men the process can takes months. IF you really love someone it shouldnt be easy to replace them. If a woman finds someone else quickly it tends to hurt more and thats when feelings like envy, hate and loss are most prominent. It feels like an injustice has been done to the memory of the relationship. And generally men take it harder because a mans ego tends to stand on the strength of his relationship. Take away the relationship and a man generally feels like he has nothing.





Women usually have better support mechanisms from friends since women tend to be better at empthy whereas a man has to deal with things alone and tends to feel like their suffering is unique and they are alone in it. Sad eh.





But this is all rather sweeping. It really does depend on the people involved. But letting go of routine and familiarity is hard for everyone. and no matter how bad a relationship is for us we always hope there is the possibility of going back on some level. It's only natural.





Consider the word divorce. It isnt just a word. its a process. Its about forcing yourself not to care about someone anymore and coming to terms with the fact you are not in their life. That goes against your basic instincts so it s a process of self discipline. Some are good at it, others are not. All depends on the circumstances of the split. I didn't want to break up. I'd invested so much time and energy into it that I couldnt let go even though I knew it was over and that it wasnt healthy for either of us. It took considerable effort not to try and undo what was done when we split. Without the support I had I may well have gone back for another go and degraded myself.





Ultimately its about facing up to harsh realities and admitting truths we'd rather not. It means admitting things about them and things about ourselves and having the self respect to stand by our decisions.





Good luck to you.Men, when you break up with a woman whom you care about or even love?
if you love her tooo much you don't get over it.....but you can get your mind off it........just hang with some friends
You must realize we have the capacity to love and love again and again. She doesn't want you so it hurts in the solar plexus. In time, you will trust a few others, and will love again. Seems it might be her loss.





read:


Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends
Why would a man break up with a woman he cares about or even loves ?


Something here does not add up.





You are reaching for any slight hint of hope that he will come back - forget it. It is not easy - but false hope will make it more difficult.
When you start to feel maybe there is some reason to try to get back with her, just remember the reasons you broke up with her. These reasons are still valid. Remember all the times she made you so mad you wanted to pull your hair out. Realize the reason she drove you crazy was because she really did not care about you or your feelings. Remember how selfish and hateful she could be. Then accept you made a good decision by dumping her.
It happens to us quite often and we get back also.