Why do women seem to find the way men deal with problems insensitive?

Well to give you an idea of what I'm talking about, suppose a girl is feeling sad or some other negative emotion and talks to you about the problem. I find that when a man tries to actually solve the problem (give solutions, help figure out the problem,) that the woman usually just gets angry and takes it out on the guy. I understand that women are known to be more emotional, (despite scientific reports stating that men are just better at hiding their emotions) that still does not make me understand why they illogically lash out at the person who is trying to help them.





It seems as if the only thing that a man can do is simply not talk, take the loud shouting, and try to comfort her.I can understand that emotionally, that may help but that still does not solve the problem.





Also if a man does try to analyze the situation and use their clearer mind to find a solution, ( not being sexist, in times of mental distress both sexes have that problem) they are usually branded as insensitive. How is being logical and fair about a solution insensitive? It simply boggles the mind.





Finally, I would appreciate it if i don't just get posts that say ';well i am not like that';. i understand that not all women are like this and just the vast majority.





So if you have bothered to read until here please answer, why?Why do women seem to find the way men deal with problems insensitive?
Because they are woman and due to emotional and biological differences they have completely different concepts of reality in accordance to the issue you are addressing.





Some woman just can't wrap there brains around it.





For instance, it has been scientifically proven that some guys actually feel WORSE then they discuess they're problems.





We are just very different forms of human beings...Why do women seem to find the way men deal with problems insensitive?
I'ts called pms
The pen is mightier than the sword, only if the pen is held by Chuck Norris.
in my experience men always think that women are upset over tiny things and the man thinks he knows how to solve it when it really cant be solved
girls seem to like putting guys in traps for no reason that's why i shut up until they clam down.
sometimes were not looking for a solution. alot of times women just want to vent. so just comfort her and wait until shes got all her problems and frustrations out and then later on that day try to offer a solution. try to start off by saying ';honey/baby, i was thinking about what you said earlier and....'; so that will show that you were paying attention and actually thinking about what she said. sometimes we just need to know you're listening.
It goes both ways there buddy, some people are just more emotional than others. some people do not want help with whatever,,,,,,,,,,, they just want someone to listen to them......... people in general both male and female do that where you start to help them with hey do this or that or call here or there, they might be able to help. and you get jumped back and told to mind your own business. Do not know the answer and just added more questions............ have a great day..............
Can't live with them can't live without them. Don't like women then what's your alternative?
Hmm, tricky and depends on the couple.





I suppose they just want a shouting board? Someone to rant to, who'll nod sympathetically but not saying anything that might draw critique to them or the way they've dealt with someone/thing. Just someone to listen? This is most likely if they are in the wrong about something.





Or perhaps they've exhausted all the suggested options and are frustrated that you (guy) didn't think they were smart enough to figure those ones out themselves. Or perhaps what you perceive as a good solution isn't a good solution due to numerous reasons, one of which being you possibly haven't listened in the first place and heard that they've done it/tried it/considered it/could do it?





Can't be sure to be honest. But while women rely more on emotion and that can make frustration come out more when discussing them and have them more likely to snap at you, it's also very annoying when the other person suggests supposed logical solutions which are only logical in theory because when you put them into practice they don't/won't work, or aren't at all applicable.
I see that you are disclaiming yourself as being not sexist, but you are basically making broad sweeping claims about the trends of both sexes.





It's really not that complex, if someone is 'emotional' then don't talk. Listen and be comforting, and if you opinion or assistance is asked for, then you can propose a solution. This is part of being in a relationship regardless of gender.





It sounds like you just aren't someone who can put up with someone who needs to vent. You need to be 'logical' and solve the problem so that you can stop hearing about it.