How do men deal with abortions?

i just had an abortion and its been hard for me every single day. I was planning to keep the baby but my boyfriend decided that he rather us have an abortion then be poor and not give our baby anything... we had no were to live no money or anything.. at first i was just going to be a single mom but when we talked about it he wanted to do things the right way.. by getting married haveing our own place and everything.... so since my parents dont even like him or anything and i knew things were going to be extreamly hard i thought maybe he was right but i ended up walking away from 2 abortion clinics finally he made me an appointment himself and said that if i came back pregnant still that he would just leave me completly and act like it was never even his kid. so anyways i ended up going through with it at the last minute! his family is really against abortions so we were going to keep this to ourselves but then he totally threw me under the bus and told his family that he never wants to see me or be with me again cuz i had the abortion! i dont understand if this is something that he is upset about or what but i mean this was his idea! he wanted me to have the abortion and i begged him to just give us a chance but now he is acting like i did this all by myself! what hurts the most is that i thought we were in this together and if i knew he was going to leave either way i would have kept the baby and went on with my life without him... so to make a long story short is this just him lashing out at me because maybe he didnt want me to have it or what is it? how do guys deal with this and how do they end up feeling in the end?How do men deal with abortions?
I'm 40 now, but when I was 16 my boyfriend manipulated me into an abortion as well. We stayed together for a couple more miserable years following the abortion. After the abortion, he told me that he would never make me go through that again...yeah! What he meant was that he didn't plan on being around long enough for it to become a problem for him any more. He's a total loser. I still think about the baby I could have had and, I still have nightmares about him and the abortion. You'd think that, by now, I would be over it, but I'm not. How can a real man do that to a person; any person? You ask how men feel about abortions; well,... I guess any man who would dare put a girl/woman through such a painful experience, (both mentally and physically) is, not ONLY a loser, but also he's beneath the lowest of all creatures in the universe. People always say things like, ';Well, it's the woman's fault because she's the one who spread her legs and got pregnant;...she deserves whatever she gets.';, but I think the man actually had more control of the situation that the woman; after all, doesn't he claim to be the stronger person? They only want to be the stronger one when it's to their benefit; but when it comes to


being responsible for something important and serious, it's all the woman's fault. That is sleazier than pond scum. The memories never go away; I'm not going to lie to you about that. but, the pain, anger, and low self-esteem will get much easier to bear. As the saying goes; ';Time heals all wound.';. Maybe you're stronger than I was at that age. I certainly hope so. I don't think that I would wish that on anyone. Just remember to learn from your experiences/mistakes (which ever you want to call it). If you plan to continue having sex; just remember to use protection. The pill always worked for me; because condoms are so unreliable, in my opinion. I really am sorry to hear that this has happened to you; because, I know it's painful in so many ways. Maybe with some love from family and/or a close friend things will get better sooner than later. Oh,... to sum up my answer to your question, ';How do men deal with abortions?';; they don't, unless their inconvenienced, and then, it's just about how they can save their own asses.





I don't mean to sound all ';doom and gloom'; because I am now married to a wonderful man who would rather die before he'd put me through something like that. Now THAT'S a real man. Keep your head up; there's always hope!How do men deal with abortions?
This guy is awful and you should be happy that you did the right thing and had an abortion. Don't feel bad, it sounds like you will be much better off this way! Some day you will have a child with the right person who loves you completely.
listen girl.. i cant say how very sorry i am for you..... you have gone thru so much and you didnt deserve it. you feel guilty and alone.... you need some counseling to get past this. please find some for yourself. alos you might want to look up a help website chat room thing for women who have had abortions for moral support. you prob need some positive people in your life. id suggest you go to a church and see if you can find peace there. you cant undo the past but you can change the future..... pray and find help for yourself..... my heart goes out to you.
Being a guy I would never put a girl through an abortion. It's her body and her choices, and I'd stick by her no matter what she decided.





In comparison, your guy seems like a guy that ';woke up'; to the ';dangers'; of sex and the fact that he could be trapped with a baby around his neck (maintenance to pay every month) , or being stuck with the girl he was only using for sex , for the rest of his life.





It's harsh, I'm sorry, people don't deserve to be treated the way he treated you, but life has to go on. Don't think about him, he doesn't deserve anyone let alone you for the way he abused your love for him and making you do something you didn't want to.





There are other guys out there who will love you. Forget the past. Forget him. Focus on the future. He wasn't right for you.
You made a decision you didn't want to make in order to keep a guy. Your reward was that the guy left you anyway. Lesson learned. I'm sorry, you might need some counseling or therapy to get over all of this. This guy doesn't feel much. He clearly doesn't have much of a heart. He didn't want to be responsible for the child and said what he needed to say to get you to do what he wanted you to do. I'm sorry he manipulated you that way. Just have to learn from our mistakes.