Monday, August 16, 2010

How should a man deal with a woman at work who purposely stares to annoy him.?

I'm not asking for a psychological evaluation but for a way to treat this woman.How should a man deal with a woman at work who purposely stares to annoy him.?
Give her something to stare about pick your nose !How should a man deal with a woman at work who purposely stares to annoy him.?
You could ignore her. Is she staring at you because she thinks you're incredibly attractive and can't take her eyes off you? Or is she just staring blindly into space and you happen to be in that general direction? Maybe you only think she's staring at you. Or maybe she is just looking at something in your direction and you are just assuming she is staring at you because deep down you want her to stare at you.
Go over, and confront her directly - ask her why she keeps starring at you. (Maybe she has a reason, and then ... maybe not!) I think that it's better to deal with the situation in a direct manner, than letting someone make you feel uncomfortable - YOU have not done anything wrong. Tell her that she makes you feel uncomfortable by starring at you. I am sure that she would do the same, if the situation were reversed. Don't put up with it! If all else fails, report her un-professional behavior to ';the boss!'; Maybe HE or SHE can resolve the problem for you. There are supposed to be rules against ';harassment!';
Show her that even though she is trying to get you upset that it is not working and you don't care is the best way because by doing or saying something is stooping down to her level. Just ignore her she probably wants you to explode and then have a reason to try to get you fired. She probably feel like she has to be in competition with you.
Treat her with indifference. She is obviously enjoying that she gets a rise out of you as you consider her staring at you annoying. If you completely ignore her and when you happen to have to look in her direction then look right though her. She will eventually get bored with your lack of annoyance or interest.


If it persists, then you may have to look into your workplace policies about harassment and take it to a higher level to get it dealt with.
TALK to her!!


She probably stares because she is too reserved/intimidated/unsure/whatever to talk to you.


I am assuming that you are both adults (by the way).


The only way to overcome this awkwardness is to talk to her and let her figure out for herself that nothing in your life is of any of her concern, and she can freely ignore you, as you like.


That being said, you don't know her intentions, and maybe she has more to offer you (in the form of teaching you something about your job). The only way to find out is to be mature and talk to her :)
Show her your middle finger without looking at her..
Simply ignore her or move your desk/seat so you won't be aware that she is staring at you. Maybe, she is not even aware that she is doing it.

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