Thursday, August 12, 2010

How does a man deal with a controlling wife?

How does a man who tries to be reasonable deal with a total control freak of a wife?How does a man deal with a controlling wife?
The responses here are funny to me. When the question is ';How does a woman deal with a controlling husband?'; The answers are usually like ';Leave him, it will never get better'; or ';Get away before it gets worse!';.





Just an observationHow does a man deal with a controlling wife?
Try marriage counseling. It sounds like she needs to learn how to compromise in a relationship.
my bil is married to a woman like that. she makes my blood boil but he just lets it go. i've no idea how a man can do that. it's emasculating when a woman controls you like that. you have 3 choices, either muddle through each day, miserably,move on, or grow a spine.
Try couples counseling
Ignore her.


Do not show affection.


Take care of yourself... stay healthy, pursue hobbies, get outside friends.
You and her both read: Men are from Mars Women are from Venus By:John Gray ph.D. and Love and Respect By: Dr. Emerson Eggerichs





I would just make sure you put your foot down and make it clear that what you said goes. But, say it nice but firm that way she really know your serious.
Sadly you will have to give her the silent treatment. Even though it will kill...sometimes you got to be cruel to be kind. Through this hopefully this will allow her to cut down on her controlling ways.





That's the only way i think you can possible help her if she is hard to approach.
Well first of all did you not notice this before you married her or were you concentrating on something more physical. You need your independence and you need to just stand up to her and tell her and if she dont like it then tell her too damn bad.
The more you give into her, the more controlling she'll be. Speak up and let yourself be heard. There is not other cure.
he divorces her!!!
I would like to see the answers...and I'll apply them to a controlling husband. Have you also had your car bugged?
Marriage counseling is the way to go
First step - stand up for yourself. Calmly, in a self controlled manner, but firmly, stand up to her, when you two are alone, tell her that you love her, but you have had enough. Calmly explain to her you are done being taken for granted, and tired of being treated like a moron. You are an adult, and deserve at least the same respect she gives her friends.


Then offer, and take her with you to marriage counseling.
Unless it's something you care deeply about or will set you back as a family, don't sweat the small stuff. Letting her ';win'; (control) these small things (and doing things she likes to do) are an easy way to show her that you love (and keep the booty flowing...trade offs my man).





On the bigger issues (such as fiances) that can really negatively affect your life you need to take a stand and be honest with her. Likewise if you really really don't want to do something, would like to visit YOUR family (instead of hers constantly), want to play cards with the guys (haven't done so in awhile) than you simply need to stand your ground and tell your wife that you need some personal time to enjoy things you have interests in.





I will also advise you to understand what makes your wife tick. Sometimes your wife my try to ';control'; certain situations because she feel stressed. For example, some people are ';time'; oriented. They become stressed when things don't get done right now, they get stressed when they have to be somewhere at a specific time and they don't like to be late or being ';right'; on time (they like a cushion). Those things are often apart of your spouse that you can't really change and you need to give her as much leeway to reduce her stress.

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